Birds of a feather flock (and fall) together.

A lotta people are attracted to drama. If they perceive you have no problems and your life is calm and happy, they may reject you on this basis alone.

I understand how odd or feeble this sounds, but it's true. People who love drama and chaos have nothing to talk about with others who don't share their brand of malignancy.

You might meet people you think you'd like to cultivate a friendship with, but it goes nowhere. WHY? You give 'em nothing intriguing to sink their teeth into, under the banner of "problem solving."

These are the same men and women who can't be in copasetic, loving, harmonious relationships with a lover or spouse, because they feel "bored" with a lack of contentious interplay. Oddly enough, I've seen this very issue play out in a series I've been watching called, "Gaslit."

Sean Penn's character (John Mitchell) suggests to the Dan Steven's character, John Dean very soon after he marries, that the ONLY "good marriage" is one that's an emotional roller-coaster ride. I'm paraphrasing here, but you get the idea.

In the world of Borderline Personality Disorder, like attracts like. A healthy, grounded, sane man or woman who's fully CAPABLE of loving and being loved, does NOT settle down with a partner who evokes chaos and drama in their relationship dynamic.

In short, Shit Disturbers pair with people who routinely need and WANT their shit disturbed, or they can't feel content.