Borderline disordered females understand absolutely NOTHING about men.
Borderline females THINK they understand men. They do not. Nothing could be farther from the truth. BPD gals know only about the penis ~not the life-support unit that's attached to it.
Sadly enough, having someone intensely interested in one's cock, is a desirable enough condition for too many males who are dissociated from a multitude of other dimensions in themselves because of poor self-worth.
Bottom line, it's like a physically beautiful woman who only cares about being admired for her visually appealing aspects, and cares nothing about whether someone notices she has a well-functioning brain, heart or sense of integrity.
If you haven't discovered the totality of WHO you really are, you'll settle for someone who can't respect, appreciate or love you for those marvelously varied aspects either.