BPD females get away with murder, because weak, insecure men let 'em!
An unscrupulous person is an emotionally underdeveloped person. They have no sense of boundaries, no impulse control, no concept of cause and effect, and no empathy. In short, these are folks who care nothing for humanity, or the well-being or others. They are supremely narcissistic, and are out for their own gain~ regardless of how many lives they destroy along their way.
We call these people Borderlines. Many Borderline Personality Disordered females make a good living off decent but naive, unsuspecting men. These gals intentionally impregnate themselves with a male’s sperm, just to get child support awarded to them for 18 years of that kid’s life. Often, they’ll do this to several different men. It literally keeps them from having to work for a living. Others falsely claim you raped or sexually abused them, and hire attorneys to go after you for money, hoping you’ll be willing to ‘settle,’ just to free yourself of these absurd, groundless allegations and the unrest and anxiety it evokes in you.
Borderlines intimately understand your vulnerability. They wouldn’t have seduced and hooked up with you from the start, if they hadn’t sensed your insecurities and fear of being publicly exposed as a fraudulent, unsavory male~ and boy, do they know how to pick ‘em!
If you’re on the receiving end of one of these scams, know that you are not alone. Roughly 80% of all people on planet Earth have BPD traits, due to having grown up with self-esteem issues as a direct result of faulty parenting. The Borderline Personality plays to your insecurities by initially love-bombing you. Soon after, she revives all the ego wounds you grew up with, which take ya right back (emotionally) to feeling ashamed, guilty and trapped by people who were charged merely with adoring and raising you UP, rather than beating you down. You haven’t outgrown those wounds to your core, which have made you ultra-susceptible to being manipulated by Borderlines.
Desperate people do desperate things! Borderlines are desperate. They’ve been survivors all their life and have never felt SAFE in their world~ no matter how much money they earn or con others out of… but have YOU?? Are you a man who’s never really been able to get his ship in the water, or it sank within a relatively short time due to a variety of shortsighted choices or decisions you’ve made?
Like attracts like, and birds of a feather flock together. Nobody emotionally strong and genuinely empowered, hooks up with a Borderline! Those of us who are truly healthy and self-actualized, trust our senses implicitly so we can discern when danger is afoot, whether it be in business OR personal dealings. Anyone else, is just relying on wishful thinking~ which is a fools errand.
If you’re willing to pay tens of thousands in legal fees to defend against a crazy woman’s absurd allegations against you, you’re a fool. So is letting that gal keep you on the defensive! You’re a masochist, as well~ because whatever “legal firm” is supposedly representing you, if this shit drags on for over several months, they’re only wanting your money, and are definitely not on your side! In short, they’re every bit as fucked up as the other side’s client.
Johnny Depp took Amber Heard to trial over false allegations of “abuse,” and won that case (along with the court ordering she pay his attorney’s fees). Finally, a man in the public eye who wasn’t afraid of risking a little ridicule, and sued that bitch! Depp’s attorney even stated on record, Heard is a Borderline! The world of rational, cogent, practical, intelligent thinkers, rejoiced~ but only because Depp had balls big enough to fight for what he knew in his heart, was right!
Depp did not capitulate and “settle,” and neither should You! IF in your heart of hearts you believe you deserve to be punished for your “sins,” then by all means, pay that snarky little twunt~ but know the world will view you precisely the same way: Guilty.
Giving into a Borderlines demands is for suckers. These are males who’ve never felt good about themselves and are insecure in the world of females, due to having grown up with emotionally impaired mothers and Narcissist fathers. No woman married to a Narcissist can get her emotional needs met~ so what inner-resources could she have had, to respond adequately to her children’s intrinsic needs?!
A male with a Narcissistic dad and emotionally underdeveloped (BPD-trait) mom, grows up identifying with the parent he sees as the lesser of two evils. This is typically the mother, although the roles may surely be reversed.
Her willingness to accept and accommodate her husband’s gruffness, his neglect, his myriad invalidations of her feelings, etc., is pitied by her son. He sees her as a hapless victim of his father’s indifference and perhaps abuse~ and essentially adopts her passivity, her disempowered “what’s the use?” attitude, and her unwillingness to take a real stand for herself. He also notices that she remains with that man… because how can she possibly survive in the world on her own? She’s financially dependent on him.
Far too often, men become fixer/rescuer (Codependent) personalities who automatically neglect their own feelings and needs in favor of taking better care of someone else’s. Thank GOD, Johnny Depp gave us a healthy frame of reference for a real MAN to emulate~ because in the world of borderline disordered females who take advantage of guys and try to bleed ‘em dry, a least he’s an icon who didn’t pander to this shit.
Most the time, right behavior follows right thinking~ but every now and then, right thinking follows right behavior. Start doing the right thing for YOU, and your thinking will straighten out and finally normalize... OR, you can keep being a scared little boy who thinks wishful thinking can save him, while he behaves in self-sabotaging ways. This pattern is familiar to you, isn’t it? The real question is, are you interested in altering it?