Busy Minds are the Devil's Workshop.
The Borderline's mind never rests. They constantly live in their head. They're prone to having monologues with others rather than dialogues, as their narcissism has them believing that only they have important ideas and facts to impart. For people with NPD and BPD traits, their truth, is the ONLY truth.
Their verbal meanderings are generally regurgitated bits of material they've stolen from another's original works, which can make them SOUND like absolute authorities on various topics. It’s easy to be seduced by this element in someone. They need you to believe they possess a level of genius.
Borderlines mentally hyper-analyze every emotion they experience. Never can they just stay in the body and learn how to tolerate difficult feelings. They're always attaching reasons and meaning to each strong emotional sensation, which reinforces disconnection/dissociation that began when they were toddlers, in order to survive painful feelings in the body.
Borderlines pride themselves on their analytical ability, never realizing that it is THIS that prevents them from becoming emotionally whole, stable, self-accepting and healthy. Millions have entered and are actively working in the psychological field, due to regarding themselves as highly adept at cerebral analysis of human behavior.
This in itself is not a bad thing, but it never helps them or anyone else begin to heal from infancy and childhood trauma to one's core sense of Self. Psychotherapy 'works' for Borderlines, only as far as keeping the mind busy and separated forever, from one's emotions. Thus, with the "help" of traditional forms of psychotherapeutic intervention, people with BPD traits never actually heal or grow to be self-actualized adults who fully accept, appreciate, respect and LIKE themselves.
The upshot of all this? The borderline personality always feels like "something's missing." Their glass is merely half-full, no matter what they've tried to get rid of the ghastly hole in their soul (including having a baby, in order to finally feel what they THINK will help them experience "unconditional love").
The Borderline's experience of loneliness (and constant ideations and feelings of needing another) is solely due to never having been able to connect in nourishing, compassionate, supportive and friendly ways to the Self. Essentially, this personality is just a brain sitting in a plexi-box with wires attached to an electrical life-support device. There is little or no connection with the body that houses thousands of emotional feelings, impulses or senses.
Instinct and intuition can barely function for personality disordered people, because these more subtle feelings in the body that alert us to impending danger and help us make sound choices, have been killed-off and buried along with the rest of one's emotions. Murdered feeling states in the Borderline include glee and joy, which cannot be TRUSTED not to invoke disaster if one ALLOWS him/herself to bask-in and enjoy them for more than a few moments! This is a learned childhood superstition incidentally, that was forged thru constantly-conditioned, Pavlovian expectation-response.
The question that begs to be asked here, is how can we ever embrace happy, light feelings, when deep-down, we’ve learned to fear and reject them? To my mind, there is NOTHING more tragic, than living like this.
Waiting for "the other shoe to drop" is the MOST common anxiety trigger among people living all over the globe. It can be easily dismantled, incidentally... but it requires a bit of UNconventional help to rid oneself of spontaneous anxiety and panic attacks, which are extremely common among emotionally-dissociated people.