Can you receive~ or only give?
It's important to be as comfortable receiving, as giving. The ocean's tide goes out to sea, but it brings back sand to deposit, or we'd have no beaches anywhere in the world.
I spoke to a woman this morning, I've known for many years. She's always been a Giver, and helped people with physical ailments thru balancing their nutrition.
Her body at 93 is breaking down. Painfully arthritic knees, a radical mastectomy due to cancer, and she believes she's still alive, because she can be of even more service to others.
I introduced the concept of receiving, in our dialogue today. Maybe the physical body breaks down so we have NO CHOICE but to rely on others~ and my sense is, this is happening to her.
Have you noticed, that humans sort of devolve as they become aged? Even without Alzheimer's, old people seem to return to a much younger time, perhaps readying themselves for rebirth or reincarnation. Maybe it's wise and healthy to allow ourselves to receive care BEFORE our physical bodies decline, so we can feel enriched and replenished by attention and kindness from others.
I don't have all the answers. I just occasionally speculate about life and love, and notice that so very many appear to have a one-sided relationship with each.
Poor self-worth and entitlement issues that accompany this condition is what compulsively drives millions of people worldwide, to Give, what they cannot allow themselves to Receive, because from infancy onward, they were programmed to feel unworthy and unlovable, by a mother who was not emotionally equipped to love them.
If you want more details about precisely how this dysfunction is implanted, get the book, DO YOU LOVE TO BE NEEDED, OR NEED TO BE LOVED? and find someone highly skilled enough to help you LEARN to feel deserving and worthy of receiving what you want and need.