DATING, IN THE WORLD OF 'APPS' AND SEEKERS OF INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
What you SEE online is almost NEVER what you get!
Back in the dark ages when I was still dating, there were various 'tells' or red flags in men's profiles I looked out for. Tried and true, they always alerted me immediately that insecurities and self-worth issues were gonna be part of the package, IF I chose to accept that mission.
Need I say, I avoided those guys like they had leprosy?? A lot of single people present themselves to the world in ways they THINK will get your attention, and make em seem appealing. Oftentimes, they suffer from "too good to be true" syndrome, and that's exactly how you feel when you gaze at their photos and read their bios.
A former (married) client had gotten emotionally involved with a psychologist who'd posted a profile on J-Date. I had a membership at the time~ and at her urging, I looked him over. It seemed to me, that with his good looks and well-articulated profile, anyone who owned a vagina would be thrilled out of her already moist panties to get this dude's attention...
I however, wasn't the least bit intrigued. First, my client was a Borderline. She'd given me lots of background information on their interplay, and I'd wanted to see for myself, just what she was up against. His profile (to the trained eye, of course) literally screamed, "I'm a Narcissist!" which isn't the least atypical within his field of endeavor.
The only missing detail in his profile that would have made his insecurity more readily recognizable, was photos of him with a hot or high-end car. This my dear ladies, is a dead giveaway that someone's wanting to impress you, but doesn't believe he can manage that on his own merit, alone.
The False-Self is well established in Narcissists and Borderlines, alike. It's the identity they've worked very hard to construct, and cling to. They've struggled plenty in their lives, and have pulled themselves up by the bootstraps if you will, without any genuine or nourishing connection to themselves and their emotions.
The upshot? What you SEE, is definitely NOT what you get with these folks. It's sorta like buying a pristinely beautiful apple from the supermarket or a roadside stand, and when you cut or bite into it once you're home, the core of it is brown and rotten.
I'm not gonna tell you that super-attractive people all lack substance, and they're generally not gonna have the right (inner) stuff to forge and maintain a healthy, ongoing relationship with you... but you'll have to search far and wide to find someone whose inside stuff is grounded and wholesome, and as beautiful or handsome as their veneer.
Incidentally, this is the way nature intended it~ or overpopulation would never have become a global issue.