Discomfort FORCES growth and change. If you never allow yourself to FEEL it, you'll remain precisely where you are.
My notes and newsletters might make you feel uncomfortable. That’s okay, ‘cause it means they’re touching a deep, sensitive nerve inside you. The question that begs to be asked here is, if you can’t recognize what may be broken in yourself, where might you ever find the impetus you need, to repair it?
Nobody wants to have to see the cracks in their own mirror! It’s much easier to recognize ‘em in others, and wanna fix or correct those deficits we can see far more clearly, in someone else.
I am an educator at heart. I consider it my calling to help you gain emotional wisdom. If nobody ever holds up a mirror to teach you where you might be better served to smooth off some rough, jagged edges in your personality, how can you EVER grow, heal and evolve to a higher state of being?
People WANT to heal, they’re simply loathe to do the work needed, to accomplish it. Add to this, most have never been able to trust another with their care, so solid therapeutic alliances are seldom retained (beyond getting one’s immediate trauma or setback fixed).
Growth work cannot be done, while we’re having to slay dragons and put out fires. Crisis orientation is always a Borderline’s impetus and motivation to seek treatment, but they rarely stick around for the work that builds them into emotionally solid, self-reliant individuals, who won’t require periodic stints in “therapy” the rest of their life.
Frankly, precious few in the psychotherapeutic industry even offer this type of help, so where’s a person to turn for real and lasting fundamental change and wellness??
I am sorry if my posts are triggering for you, because they force you to look inside yourself to see where healthy growth and change will enhance your existence. It can be nauseating to recognize where we’re still stuck or need support to get where we’d ideally like to be, in terms of our personal evolution. Still, I’ll never apologize for trying to help you construct a life that’s far more gratifying and meaningful, than the one you’ve been leading.
Only when you’ve identified within yourself, the aspects that require mending or smoothing out, can you truly create the kind of existence that yields contentment and genuine happiness at least 87% of the time~ and this will always be my most fervent wish for you.