Don't try to fix someone else's life, before you've cleaned up the mess in your OWN backyard.
When we project our own priorities, feelings and needs onto others, our narcissism is highlighted. My dad used to say, "stay in your own configuration." This has converted today to, "stay in your own lane."
Years back when I first BEGAN recording and uploading videos to my newly created YouTube channel, a female follower suggested that I should start pod-casting. I had instantaneous emotional reactions to this.
First, she had NO idea the courage it took for me (a techno-bimbo) to even approach setting up a YT channel, experiment with recording things on my (then) PC video extension that a friend had (thankfully) helped me install and learn to use, and try to get comfortable with THAT new domain of exposure! Hell, it's a fucking miracle, I'd even learned how to upload new materials to my WEBSITE years earlier!
Second, I resented the shit out of her comment. Who the fuck did she think she was~ and why should it be MY job, to gratify this need for her?!
Where does this shit come from? Well, I guess some people think of me as a bit "larger than life," and it may escape em, that while I might be brilliant or assertive in 'some' arenas, I'm not this way in ALL arenas. Hmmm. I suppose I should feel flattered, but it mostly just makes me feel pressured, which makes me angry.
I think folks who've reached a certain level of notoriety can be thought of by some, as Super-Human. Alas . . . I 'm quite certain I am not. In reality, I am constantly tasked with figuring out what I can afford to give my energy and focus to, and what I cannot.
This in itself, can feel like walking a tightrope of sorts, and I must gently remind myself that I'm only human. I sometimes wish others could remember it, too.
Narcissistic parents can't notice or applaud their offspring's accomplishments. They always remark or comment on what their child has failed to achieve, first~ before any accolades are given. How we were parented (or weren't), not only shapes how we feel about Ourselves, it typically influences how we interact with others.
Bottom line, I believe we could all be a little better off, if we just stayed "in our own configuration" as my dad advised ~and if WE feel passionately about a movement or cause, we should ACT on that impetus we feel, rather than passing the buck to someone else. Amen.