Gender Ambivalence: Has 'being neither here nor there' EVER been respected or revered?
Seems to me, if you can't identify with female or male pronouns, perhaps you should celebrate your unique singularity by claiming yourself an "It."
'Them' and 'they' imply you're a group, a committee, a consortium, rather than an individual who feels different than 85% of other humans who inhabit planet Earth. (Poor you.)
If you desire no gender association with males or females, and you lament about not "fitting in" with the rest of society, that's okay with the rest of us, and you have our pity. Contrary to what you might believe, we don't hate you, we won't plot to harm you, but neither do we envy you.
Life is uncertain and hard enough, living as a man or woman~ but it must be REALLY tough for you folks who've been forced to find your own safe place in the world, somewhere in-between.