Have you ever tried to share your deepest thoughts or feelings with a toddler?
How'd that work out for ya?
Borderline Personality Disorder is a developmental arrest issue. The average emotional maturity of a Borderline is around 3 years old. BPD is classified under Axis II (personality disorders) in diagnostic and statistical manuals (the DSM-IV and DSM-V).
Underdeveloped people (children and teens) love instant gratification, whereas one who has reached healthy emotional development, has acquired the capacity for impulse control, healthy boundaries, empathy and DELAYED gratification.
The Dem party appeals to many developmentally arrested folks who are not capable of rational thinking, circumspection or seeing the bigger picture in any life situation or relationship struggle. They seek only instant gratification~ never considering potential repercussions from shortsighted choices and decisions they make in pursuit of immediate excitement, gratification and even, a little danger.
These days, it often seems like forces of good are constantly battling forces of evil~ but what we’re REALLY witnessing, are swarms of emotionally famished, petulant teenagers who are merely doing what all adolescents do~ rebelling against adults and authority, while searching for a sense of ‘identity’ that feels congruent with their rapidly changing inner terrain (the downside of going thru pubescence).
If you’ve had a teenager and you enforced no boundaries for him/her whatsoever, they’d be skipping classes, doing drugs or and/or alcohol, failing in school, being sexually promiscuous, entertaining friends in your home who have no regard or respect for your house or furnishings, refusing to comply with your requests, and making your life a living hell. All this chaos is a natural developmental stage of a child’s growth to some degree, but no reasonably sane parent chooses to raise a monster.
Underdeveloped humans have no ‘container’ holding them in. They’ve gone thru life as though they possess no epidermis, which has left them emotionally raw, unstable, dramatically over-sensitive and highly reactive. We’ve seen this as of late, in the hysterical rantings of far left-leaning celebrities: “If Trump wins the Presidency in 2024, I’m leaving this country!” Great. We’ll pack your bags.
These are children living in adult bodies who lack any concrete sense of right and wrong. They are frustrated and depressed, because they haven’t been able to figure out who they are, yet believe they’re supposed to during a stage in their life when it’s literally impossible!
They cling to their peers hoping to forge some semblance of identity they think may fit them (separate from their parents, of course), and exist in a kind of developmental limbo. This plateau feels a bit like what some imagine to be ‘purgatory.’ One is neither a child nor an adult~ they’re a “tween.” (Imagine trying to straddle that fence for several years.) Incidentally, the psychological profession doesn’t consider one to have outgrown their adolescence, until they’re well past the age of 23.
As a teenager has the chance to mature a bit and acquires broader experiences and perspectives, they begin to notice what lies beyond the end of their nose and comprehend this thing called “Life” ~ and how they can manage to flow with and fit into it. Drinking age and voting age are predicated on one thing: Someone’s capacity to make rational, well-considered choices regarding their well-being, and that of others.
If you liken this period in one’s life to an existential (or mid-life) crisis, you might imagine how adrift these rebellious, attention-demanding kids feel. Treating them like functional adults is NOT the answer to our societal problems. It merely enables and reinforces psychosis in these kids, for which wildly shifting hormone levels have already paved the way.
A rigid, no-nonsense approach that rewards a child whenever appropriate, and firmly punishes him when necessary, is what adolescents require. If an adult can’t/won’t set healthy boundaries for a child, from whom can he learn from example and develop the ability to set them for himself?!
With any luck, this (rare) type of parental paradigm can help immature young souls grow into being functional, self-actualized adults one day, rather than toddlers throwing tantrums to test the limits of what they can get away with, and what they cannot.
No neglected child or teen has EVER turned out well. Between living with various addictions and sociopathic traits, state prisons are overflowing with these folks~ yet droves of them would have benefitted far more, from early-onset psychiatric intervention.
These days, when you see naked or garishly dressed people (and I use the term loosely) engaging in behaviors that are reminiscent of little kids in daycare, do NOT presume you are observing adults~ regardless of their height or girth. What you’re actually witnessing, are little kids in adult-sized bodies who are as undercooked as a half-baked cake!
This is Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD has become so rampant in today’s world, it has gained majority status. 80% of all people inhabiting our planet, have BPD traits to one extent or another (which is why it’s rarer than a full solar eclipse to find a stable, loving, fiscally responsible, age-appropriate partner).
Those who rape, pillage and murder are far-end of the spectrum Borderlines. They have no empathy, and feel no remorse. If you’ve ever loved one of these people and had your world turned upside-down and inside-out by this emotionally stunted lover, you know the kind of torment about which I speak.
Borderlines cannot relate to or identify with YOUR feelings and needs. They’re concerned only with their own comfort and survival, they are narcissistic, pathetically insecure, mercurial, emotionally greedy and volatile. Your feelings and needs matter not at all to them, despite what they might say to the contrary.
I want you to understand how allowing people with this disorder to run rampant in our streets and manipulate us from high places in government, cannot help but create a dystopian world, while making the rest of us feel like we’re trapped indefinitely, in an insane asylum.
You write so clearly and to the point.