If you're afraid to FEEL, you cannot learn to HEAL.
It doesn't matter how psychologically or emotionally heathy you are. If you're still WANTING a lover who can't or won't return your adoration, you've retained serious core trauma wounds since infancy and early childhood at the hands of your mother.
You'll need highly specialized, focused help to mend those injuries, or for the remainder of your life you'll continue to choose partners who MATCH how you feel about Yourself deep down inside, which is unlovable and never good enough. Both the
Core issues spawn Codependency and Borderline Personality Disorder. They're actually 2 sides of the core trauma coin. Both the narcissistic Codependent and the Borderline share the same early trauma to their emerging sense of Self, as toddlers. In short, they're both wounded in precisely the same ways.
If you're wanting to know more about how these personality disorder issues are implanted during our earliest weeks of life, read the book, DO YOU LOVE TO BE NEEDED, OR NEED TO BE LOVED?
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