Is the grass EVER greener?? Depends on your vantage point.
A lotta married people think being single is a panacea. A lotta single people think being married is a panacea. I try to explain to folks that each choice involves accepting a specific set of compromises. Some people are more comfortable with the compromises they make as a single entity. Others prefer the compromises they make, being coupled.
The truth is, we are never faced with the reality of our fantasies, until we step into it, and find out the 'day to day' of certain choices we've made, is NOTHING like what we imagined it to be.
Ya can't warn people about this kind of thing. They're too steeped in their belief that "HAPPINESS" awaits them, IF ONLY
this or that happens.
My stepmom once said, "experience is the best teacher~ only a FOOL will have no other." Gawd, how right that woman was!
In my business, I try to dissuade my clients from heading into emotional train wrecks, whether they seem closer than they actually appear in their auto's side mirror ~ or 100 miles up the road they're traveling on.
Frankly, ya might as well be talking to a wall sometimes. It's challenging to help folks accept that their life hasn't worked SO FAR, due to very specific choices they've naively made. Just like teenagers, they honestly think they KNOW IT ALL, and wanna invalidate the guidance you offer, if it doesn't 'fit' with their agenda. That's okay~ ya can't save 'em all.
Whenever you encounter someone who's older, with far more life experience under their belt and wisdom to match, try not to piss on what they're imparting to you. They've BEEN where you are, they've seen lots of people destroy themselves, and they have rare and precious gifts to offer.
I'm fairly psychic, so I can usually see what's ahead for clients who aren't willing to apply themselves to the work. This crystal ball of mine (for better or worse) is eerily accurate over the course of many years, when it comes to predicting people's outcomes.
Naturally, you can make your own choices, decisions and mistakes. Most certainly, you can keep doing it until you reach your mid-life years or later. But here's the deal: IF you come back for another rotation, you won't be farther ahead with certain issues and struggles than you are in THIS lifetime, if you're unwilling to be ruddered by someone skilled enough to offer it.
If you're okay with that, cool! Some people are young souls, or slow learners. They haven't tried to learn from other people's mistakes (including their parents) or evolve much, during a single incarnation. They don't yet see the need for it, I suppose.
I can't relate to 'em~ because by the grace of God, MY awakening came early in life. I knew I had an important choice of two options, at 20. #1, was taking a nosedive off a tall building. #2, was getting ultra-determined to grow and heal myself.
Needless to say, I chose the latter.
I am content and happy a solid 93%
of the time. :~)