Just a Facebook post from 4 years ago (9/7/2020). Hang on tight, M'dears...!

Grrr... I've been lately hearing a phrase uttered a lot on TV shows, but it's also coming outta the mouths of men I've met:

"Happy wife, happy life."

I feel a need to spout-off about this, because it makes me feel kinda nauseated whenever I hear it. I'm probably the closest thing you'll ever find to a chauvinist with a vagina. I've been thinking like a man my entire adult career, and it's pretty fucking doubtful that's gonna change~ in THIS lifetime, anyway.

This phrase (to me) attributes privilege and superiority to females which frankly, many haven't earned and definitely don't deserve. I have the same response to (some) Jewish girls who were raised to believe they're born into "Princess" status, and that a husband is good only to the extent he can "provide" well for her and her children~ jewelry and other luxuries included, of course.

I watch home remodeling shows, because I enjoy witnessing transformation in almost any arena (but you know this about me by now, right?). I see couples deciding on design and decorating details, but "Wifey" always seems to get her way. She PRETENDS she cares about hubby's desires and needs, but when it gets right down to it, she consistently gets HER way, and the husband complies like a pussy~ muttering with a half-smile, "happy wife, happy life," and everyone giggles... while I find it revolting.

I AM SO SICK OF THIS SHIT!!! Honestly, it pisses me off no end!

I've always been of the mind that if My Man is happy, I will be too. He's gonna bend over backwards to please me. He'll love being around me, and wanna spoil me rotten. And ya know what? That's exactly what my romances have been like!

Men naturally wanna please women. They're groomed for this in childhood by their mommies~ whether she was an emotionally healthy and loving woman, or not.

I've never taken a man for granted~ not his love for me, not his thoughtfulness, not the little ways he wants to treat or spoil me, etc., which means I haven't expected anything other than his respect and adoration~ and if he can't manage that, he's not around anymore.

A GIFT is what someone offers from the warm, loving place inside their heart. If something's expected of us, it can never be "a gift." Think about how much pleasure it gives You to 'gift' something to someone you care about... but if it's expected, aren't you robbed of that opportunity to experience joy?

Far too many women in My opinion, EXPECT things from men, simply because they're beautiful. If they were born ordinary looking or plain, would their attitudes be different?? And WHAT exactly do they bring to a man's party, other than a gorgeous veneer?

Courtesans of ancient times were groomed to please men~ but not just sexually. They were taught and schooled about MANY aspects of life, so that they could carry on intelligent and lively conversations with ANY man on matters of politics, religion, travel, etc., and were taught foreign languages in order to communicate with men visiting from other nations.

These women were the prostitutes of earlier times, but they were so much more~ because while they lived off the favors of men and were handsomely paid for their time, they were high-class ladies who were trained to be delightfully excellent company for males.

Marry a gal like THAT~ and ya had it made in the shade. But these women did not marry until perhaps, they'd reached an age where they it seemed practical to retire.

I'd like the phrase, "Happy wife, happy life" to be eradicated from our lexicon of marital lingo, because I see it as promoting inequity between wives and husbands, and responsible for the felling of good and decent men~ and God knows, we have precious few enough of THOSE around these days...

and the truth is, if we keep emasculating people with penises, we'll have even fewer of em. Amen.

PS: This woulda been my Sunday sermon~ but when it was written, I was literally in survival mode with an inoperable air conditioner in triple digit heat!