No matter what you may believe, people come together out of mutual need. One may OUTGROW their need for another, in which case the bond between two people usually breaks. The needs we have Today, are seldom the needs we'll have in the 'tomorrows' to come.
Regrets only occur in HINDSIGHT. "I should never have sold that car or house..." or, "I shouldn't have stayed with that lover or partner so long..." but it's critical to remember that we make choices and decisions BASED ON our immediate needs~ NOT the needs of our future Self.
People routinely emotionally eviscerate themselves for the not-so-wise choices they've made when younger~ yet tend to forget that those choices emanated from the only level of healing, development and life experience they had at that juncture!
In short, we made the best possible choice we COULD for ourselves at that point in time, based on our immediate needs and desires for comfort, safety and security~ and ya can't KNOW what ya don't yet know!
Were these the healthiest or BEST choices we could have made for ourselves in retrospect? Probably not, but it's what we wanted and needed in the moment, and those choices are often the ones that FORCE the most growth and healing.
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