Politics, the Media and Borderline Personalities

Some of us have labeled Leftists we’ve heard in mainstream news circuits and our government as, “Marxists,” “Communists,” and perhaps, “the evil incarnate.” But do we ever understand what it IS, that makes these people seem so lacking in character, ethical behavior and morality? My entire life, I’ve always been curious about what makes people tick, and what stops ‘em from ticking. Rather than accepting obvious or surface explanations, I’ve dug deep to discover the root cause of behaviors that seem aberrant, strange or ‘off’ to me.

This piece has been sitting in my queue for a couple of months or so. My home fire deterred the launching of it, but upon reexamination and with a tad of editing, it still seems worthy of sharing with ya. You be the judge.

A great number of us are aghast at what’s been obvious lies we’ve heard flowing from mainstream media mouths, and feel shocked about significant local and national events NOT being reported by these folks. We may have questioned why they seem so eager to manipulate our views of reality~ but just how have these behaviors among leftist “news anchors” become so biased and infuriatingly apparent to those of us inclined to search for truth?!

Sorry my friends, but it’s not because these folks follow or identify with any historical political persuasion we have for years associated with Adolf Hitler, Stalin or Karl Marx. That’s way too simplistic an explanation. We need to dig much deeper to discover the root of why those psychotic megalomaniacs lacked fundamental, wholesome human characteristics, and have been regarded by rational, normal folks (then and today), as “Monsters.”

George Soros is a Monster. He’s had a chip on his shoulder for many decades, because (as I’ve understood it) the United States blocked some of his nefarious efforts as a young man, and he’s been pissed off about it ever since! His malicious revenge on America has been methodically orchestrated, and he’s gotten away with it! Hopefully this will soon change, if Trump’s administration comes outta the ether about this guy, and dismantles his overreaching power in our court systems and various branches of government. But ya gotta wonder, how the fuck did we let this happen in the first place?

Alas, I’ve digressed. When I began writing about Borderline Personality Disorder, there was almost nothing you could read about it on the internet, save a couple of clinical articles and some writings by a gal named, AJ Mahari who brought to light her own sense of living with BPD, and shared whatever understanding she’d managed to glean about the disorder while struggling with it. We tend to write about what we know about, and Ms. Mahari was (20 years or so ago) a forerunner in this arena.

I didn’t do more than briefly graze her online materials. They failed to fascinate or keep me engaged, but at least (to her credit) she was writing about it. I did no formal research into BPD prior to working with a young male client who’d been entrapped into fatherhood by a gal he’d had a sexual affair with several years earlier, who later demanded child support from him. She’d been engaged to marry another during the time she was seeing my client, while having sexual liaisons with numerous other men.

When my client revealed this gal had said she was going to “steal a baby” from him and did, I felt nothing short of outrage. THIS was my introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder, which spawned my first web article entitled, “BLACKMAILED INTO FATHERHOOD~ Borderline women, and men who love them.”

About two weeks after I’d uploaded that article to my site, my phone literally did not stop ringing for weeks. Men from all over the globe were calling to share their painful and harrowing experiences, in the midst of loving a borderline disordered partner. That one article, miraculously put me on the map. What followed, was a virtual tsunami of men who sought my help to extract themselves from a tormenting affair or marriage to a female Borderline.

Surprisingly, their excruciating stories were identical in nature, down to the very last, infinitesimal detail~ which in itself, was somewhat shocking to me. In truth, all those eerily familiar, detailed verbal accounts formed the basis of what grew into 25 articles on BPD that I penned over the course of the next nine years, straight. My passion for this topic captivated me. I literally could not stop writing about it! You might say, my articles are highly-relatable transcripts of verbal information shared with me by thousands of men.

You won’t necessarily recognize BPD traits right away when you meet someone, unless you’ve learned to identify this personality disorder from a plethora of details described in my articles, but the more deeply involved with a borderline disordered man or woman you get, the more apparent these features will be to you. Incidentally, the Hollywood community is rife with this disorder! Borderlines are stellar actors, which makes the rest of us highly susceptible to being seduced by them. They’re so convincing during the initial “honeymoon” love-bombing phase at the start of your romance, you’ll never even consider how quickly you'll be dropped on your head the minute they sense they’ve captured your heart.

A BPD individual is only interested in “The Chase,” not the capture~ and boy, are they expert at it! Their seduction routines in the beginning of your romance are stellar: Liking all the things you do, seeming to share your values, stating they can’t imagine living without you, adoringly gazing into your eyes like you’ve hung the moon and the stars and can walk on water, are enough to convince you they’re utterly sincere~ even when your gut is warning you to be suspicious and skeptical.

Here are some typical BPD features: They’re pathological liars and copy-cats/plagiarists. They are incapable of constructing an original thought. They lack circumspection and common sense. Borderlines are hyper-controlling and highly manipulative. Rebound relationships are extremely common. The Borderline Personality is ultra-reactive emotionally~ often making mountains out of molehills; they’re prone to catastrophizing (and in the process) triggering panic attacks for themselves. Panic and anxiety issues are common among Borderlines, as are Obsessive-Compulsive thinking and traits, various addictions, phobias, and never-ending fears that you’ll leave them (while they routinely walk out on, or push you away).

No Borderline has a healthy sense of Self-worth. They are all narcissistic, insecure, and highly prone to engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors. A Borderline will not seek therapeutic help unless/until they are deeply consumed by a crisis. They’re drawn to long-distance romances, due to fear and avoidance of real closeness, connection and ongoing intimacy. Thus, a ‘part-time’ relationship of distance, suits ‘em just fine.

Borderlines routinely gaslight, manipulate, lie to and cheat on you. They frequently contradict themselves. This is an outgrowth of their tendency to embellish the truth and manufacture falsehoods, to make themselves ‘look’ good. Borderlines will only tell you what they need or want you to know about them. You’ll never get an ‘accurate reading’ on these people. A Borderline’s moods are mercurial. You’ll never know from one day to the next whether to expect a light, joyful countenance, or an anxious, depressed one~ and suicidal ideation in Borderlines (“I don’t wanna go on living” or, “I feel like killing myself”) is not at all an uncommon occurrence.

Like attracts like. BPD friendships (if they have any) are typically with other Borderlines. On the heels of feeling especially intimate and close with you, they’ll distance, find fault or pick a fight with you, have a spontaneous sexual affair with a stranger, or leave you~ often to return a week or two later, and tearfully beg you to take ‘em back the moment they experience a minor disappointment with that other person, who typically never knows they’re already attached to someone.

As an aside, when a man is cheated on by his lover, it triggers enormous shame in him, which converts to anger. Men are enculturated to “never strike a female,” so his natural reaction is to wanna kill or at least, cause serious bodily injury, to the guy who’s fucked his girlfriend or wife. This my friends, is displaced rage.

Borderlines are perfectionistic, and can only view themselves as such. Conflict resolution isn’t possible with a BPD lover or spouse, because core shame (“I’m not lovable or good enough”) is triggered the moment you highlight a flaw, a shortcoming or mistake they’ve made. In a Borderline’s mind, they are NEVER “wrong.” You will never receive an apology from a Borderline. Their bad behavior toward you is erased completely from their mental chalkboard… but yours is held in their steel trap mind, and you’ll be forever tortured over that tiny misstep you made, years before.

BPD is a developmental arrest issue. A Borderline’s emotional growth was halted at a very early age (typically around 2 - 3 years old). This deficit is due to disconnection (or dissociation) from painful feelings as a young child, that impacted his/her sense of worth and lovability. An emotionally impaired mother is incapable of fully attaching and bonding with her newborn and developing child. Thus, it’s not uncommon for these children to be anxiously attached in all their adult relationships.

So, when you’re observing what appears to be wildly aberrant attitudes, behaviors, views and ideations among news anchors in mass media (or anyone else, for that matter), try to resist the temptation to think, “Communist or Marxist.” Please know that you’re observing someone whose cognitive ability is extremely limited and often distorted, due to personality disorder features caused by their lack of emotional development.

Incidentally, emotional development is the precursor to moral development. One cannot possess the latter, without having first acquired the former.

Borderlines have struggled lifelong to maintain a sense of impulse control, healthy boundaries and empathy. You won’t change this for them (that requires a very unique and unconventional type of professional intervention), but you can turn the channel on your TV or radio, or simply say “gotta run now~ bye,” and end that call.