Speaking of "Loneliness"
Loneliness becomes a thing of the past, when you learn to respect, like and admire yourself. Becoming your own best friend takes some diligent practice, but the negative tape that plays 24/7 in the back of your psyche, is the primary cause of your depression and dissatisfaction in this lifetime.
When clients have told me they’re lonely, my response to them has always been, Loneliness isn’t about your need for another. It’s about the lack of a solid connection to Yourself. The bulk of my clients over the past 30 years have been personality disordered. They’ve dissociated from numerous emotions (especially dark or painful ones) since they were toddlers, just to survive in their family of origin. Disconnection from our feelings, is disconnection from our Self. Our emotions ARE us, and vice-versa.
Core-injured people (Narcissists, Codependents and Borderlines) are hard on themselves. When you're critical of yourself, too exacting, shaming to you, it undermines you in ways that are extremely deleterious to your emotional and physical well-being. Imagine beating yourself every day with a heavy block of wood or metal pipe, and you have an excellent example of how diminished your energy, capacity to focus and your mood would be!
If you think you're "deserving" of this abusive treatment (because of how poorly you were raised), you will have way too high a threshold for accepting and enduring abuse from others (friends and romantic partners). You WANT them to change your mind about you, and see you more positively than you're able to see yourself~ but because deep down YOU don't feel worthy of receiving love, you go thru life with a broken picker, and all your romantic choices cannot help but be disappointing and painful.
Learn to see yourself Objectively, rather than Subjectively, and with some practice and luck, you might one of these days manage to fall in love with You~ which to My mind, is the most important and greatest human achievement there is!