The Big Secret to finding Real Happiness, the world of "psychology" DOESN'T want you to know about.
When we feel unhappy, dissatisfied or empty, it's easier to pin these feelings on something outside ourselves, than to accept how lacking or diffuse our relationship bond is, with US.
Lots of females think they want a BABY, because they fantasize that an infant will love them "unconditionally," and (finally) fill the ghastly hole in their soul. These same gals have tried literally everything else to assuage their discontent, but nothing has worked. They view having a baby as the 'magic bullet' that's somehow gonna open the (previously closed) door to joy and bliss. Yeah, right.
When we've grown up with emotional pain, we have a strong tendency to attach our sense of unhappiness to various things~ and sometimes we settle on just one. When this happens, it doesn't matter HOW rewarding a life we've carved out for ourselves, it ALWAYS feels like something important and vital is missing from our existence!
This is your CLUE for discovering an opportunity to actually HEAL, with the right kind of professional help (and I'm not talking about psychotherapy, here).
Since the age of 2, we've been trying to understand our inner pain, and have mentally analyzed AND dissociated from it. Anyone who disconnects from painful emotions as a toddler, REMAINS disconnected from them lifelong.
Emotional dissociation blocks our ability to relate to ourselves in nourishing, friendly and joyful ways, because we are basically an empty shell, connected to very few feelings and senses. NOBODY can build a happy, fulfilled existence, when they're 'divorced' from a litany of vital emotions and senses. In short, it's a VERY lonely place to live.
Most people can't stand to spend time alone! Being by themselves feels isolating, shameful and sadness-producing. This is universally true. These people often presume that if they were closer to family, or had a sustainable romantic relationship, "all would be well" in their world. Sadly, none of these things ever remedy what's actually ailing them.
Healthy aloneness means being WITH yourself, having learned how to forge a nourishing, supportive and kind inner dialogue and attachment bond with YOU. Nothing else matters, if you can't cultivate this for yourself! No success, no baby, no partner or mate, no vast fortune and no amount of physical vibrancy or strength can mitigate your sense that "something's missing" from your life, until you REPAIR this aspect in yourself.
It's always easier to look outside ourselves and try to fix other people, than it is to work on repairing ourselves. This is a given~ but only when you learn to have a compassionate, nurturing, friendly relationship bond with You, can you EVER feel content, complete, emotionally whole, and happy.
SO, WHAT THE FUCK ARE YA WAITING FOR?!