THE MISSING LINK: Why Happiness is elusive to so many bright people.
The Narcissist presumes to know what you're thinking, feeling and how you'll react to something they say or do. 99% of the time they're dead wrong.
This is a grandiose trait in one's personality that believes he or she is all-knowing or omnipotent~ which is impossible when one is developmentally arrested.
Only when we work to know and understand ourselves and our own emotions intimately, can we even BEGIN to fathom what's going on inside another. Tell this to a Narcissist, and he'll balk, and assume you're meaning to insult him.
Many people with NPD are hyper-controlling, hyper-cerebral, and hyper-analytical. They live constantly in their head, and have very little association with their emotions, senses or instincts.
The Narcissist THINKS he knows everything there is to know~ and yet, it's all just speculation. Dissociation from our emotions since we were toddlers, has disabled the development of intuition and instinct.
People who navigate thru life WITHOUT relying on these extra-sensory aspects, have no inner compass or GPS to guide them, and are basically shooting in the dark, expecting to hit a bullseye with their cerebral brilliance.
IF this occurs, it's rarer than a full solar eclipse. Hell, they can't even find or forge a healthy, loving attachment bond.
If you can't intuit and instinctually sense what will give YOU the most beneficial outcome or even glean when danger is afoot, how can you possibly presume to know what's right or good for someone else?!
Narcissists are devoid of empathy. They can muster 'sympathy' for a hurt animal or human, but they cannot identify with nor relate to another's needs, inner emotional experiences or pain.
Narcissism is always there at the ready to lend a helping hand, due to a Superman Complex that was jump-started by childhood feelings of inadequacy and insecurity~ and yet these people have little or no compassion for the Self.
When grandiosity and bravado has divorced you from your OWN pain, you cannot relate to anyone else's. When you try to help a Narcissist SEE INTO a loved-one's fears or pain, it falls on deaf ears. They simply cannot identify with it. No compassion or sympathy is ignited in them.
Narcissists are not "BAD people." They've built remarkably mighty defenses that protect them from incurring further emotional harm, past early childhood. They are virtual islands unto themselves. If you’re in love with a Narcissist, there are never two people inhabiting your relationship~ there’s only one (and it isn’t you).
The downside of being a Narcissist, is that joyfulness, contentment and the capacity to welcome genuine, lasting love into one's existence will continue to elude them.
Emotional development work is needed to grow one's feeling repertoire into its chronological age, and heal the Heart that got broken during infancy by an emotionally impaired maternal object.