THE PURE FOLLY OF ATTEMPTING TO FIX BROKEN LOVERS
NOBODY can fix OR change a broken person. The person has to WANT to get well emotionally, and seek the kind of help that can facilitate it.
Young or new therapists think they can heal EVERYONE, and as they gain clinical experience, it's a hard pill to swallow, when they discover they cannot. Some accept this fact, many do not.
The average psychotherapist will keep a client "in treatment" for years or decades, when ethically speaking, they should be releasing that client to find more suitable and effective care elsewhere. I lost respect for a longterm friend and colleague years back, as she enmeshed her clients, and kept them in her practice for DECADES.
I and my methods are not a solid fit for every person who wants my help. There are people who are just not able OR ready to benefit from the unconventional help I offer. No professional is a good fit for everyone, and it's egocentric to believe one is.
If highly skilled therapeutic support cannot repair what's broken in an individual, it's pure folly for laymen to think they can, and yet, this is at the heart of pathological Codependency among millions of people.
I completely understand how one's upbringing can influence them to keep trying to fix a relationship and hang in there against all odds, but within the realm of human dynamics, it's not a healthy nor productive strategy.
I'm reminded of the saying, never try to force a square peg into a round hole. There's a lid for every pot, as they saying goes~ but not every lid will fit the pot you're using for cooking.