This ain't your grandma's psychotherapy!
Healing the Borderline Personality Disordered Client
People with Borderline Personality Disorder traits may be humanistic, kind and caring, but their relationships struggle, due to anxiety/panic symptoms, avoidant behavior patterns (fear/dread of directness and confrontation), mood fluctuations, cognitive distortion and/or dissonance, and a litany of other issues like poor self-worth, self-sabotaging behaviors and choices, poor impulse control, addictions, lack of healthy boundaries, and limited capacity for empathy.
Borderlines are NOT “bad” people, but they struggle with emotional development deficits that block their ability to navigate life and relationship challenges and events in a grounded, logical, stable fashion. Emotionally, one with BPD is a very young child struggling to be effective and successful in the world of adults.
Lack of circumspection, rationale and common sense make it especially difficult for one with BPD traits to advance personally or professionally. Healing BPD is an emotional growth producing process (which is not available thru psychotherapy) and the utilization of highly specific self-worth building tools and practices.
Very few if any therapeutic professionals offer this type of intervention to help Borderlines become emotionally whole, confident, successful and productive members of society~ and we cannot ever heal the adult self, unless/until we are simultaneously repairing the psychologically and emotionally bludgeoned little girl or boy within.
Reparenting work is absolutely essential for the BPD client to shift their long-standing cerebrally-focused paradigm, let go of self-defeating choices and behaviors, and grow confidently into their chronological age. Millions of Borderlines of course, had mothers… but none of them ever had the benefit of growing up with a nurturing, warm, affectionate Mommy, so they’re not able to view themselves as good enough or lovable.
As with medical conditions I believe it is not always possible to cure BPD's. Thus
reality is not always changed for the better by kindness. As a writer wrote recently -
"kindness must be given with discipline". So, is it possible Christians may have been
taken advantage of because of their kindness ? I think so. The author had in mind
Christians who had been exploited by Muslims who suddenly appeared to live in
a Christian country.
Although Christians can learn, many of them lose their lives during the learning process.
What is your opinion ?
With the cognitive ability of a normal adult, can reparenting occur through relationships in which the BPD person knows reparenting efforts are occurring, with which the person can cooperate?