WALK LIKE A MAN
I have always liked and trusted men more than women. I suspect it's because my dad was the sole source of my affectional supplies up to the age of 5, when my folks divorced. It was then, at the zenith of my ‘formative years’ the bottom of my world dropped out from under me. I started school with serious emotional AND cognitive deficits, due to this traumatic childhood event.
This does not mean I think men are flawless. The primary issue I have with a lotta men, is they're emotional cowards. If they wanna leave a relationship, they'll act-out in chickenshit ways to force the woman to do their dirty work, and break it off.
Not all guys are like this. It's only little boys pretending to be grown-up men who pull these stunts. An emotionally healthy adult male respects, honors, takes responsibility for his feelings, and ACTS on them. Little boys do not, because they fear anyone thinking poorly of them. This issue spills over into their professional life, as well. They'll keep under-performing employees onboard, LONG past their effective shelf life.
Males who have poor self-worth ALWAYS have pathological Codependency traits. Aside from always trying to buy approval and love from others, they make the women they're with pull the 'breakup trigger', because they despise and are dissociated from their own darker nature. This spawns some pretty disgusting behavior patterns, under the guise of “not wanting to hurt someone.”
The core shame in these guys is so prominent, they literally cannot handle anyone thinking less of them, so they try back-peddling by acting distant or shitty, hoping the gal they're with will will kick em out of the relationship, and put an end to their dissatisfaction and/or torment.
This is THE MOST selfish act of aggression one can commit against another human being. The hurt, shame, invalidation, neglect and lack of respect that one inflicts on a lover or partner thru these means, is literally unforgivable.
It is an act of cruelty to make someone try and figure out where they stand with you emotionally, and continue thinking they have a shot at being loved by you, if they try just a little harder.
Have you ever tried to put yourself in THEIR shoes?? Or has it been way too long since you've painfully yearned to be loved by your momma, and held yourself to blame for her inability to love a child (ANY child)?
The question that begs to be asked here, is are ya willing to pull on your Big Boy pants, and try exiting your relationship like a Man~ or are ya just gonna keep acting-out to make her hate you, so you can leave by DEFAULT?
Do you think this will grow your self-respect or character? Think again. Will she one day remember you fondly? Not a snowball’s chance in Hell, m’dear. What stays indelibly etched in human memory as the most prominent and last thing someone recalls about us, is how we exited their life. Did we do it with care and respect~ or did we not?
Remember this: Ripping the Bandaid off fast is always a lot less painful than pulling it off slowly.