What the hell goes deeper than 'scratching the surface' on what's REALLY ailing us?
Ae you still only treating the SYMPTOMS of your Dis-Ease?
People almost never self-sabotage in obvious ways... it's all the tiny choices and decisions they make, that cumulatively undermine 'em.
If you point this stuff out to a friend, they’ll vehemently deny it till the cows come home~ but the proof’s always in the pudding. Look at their life, love and health history, and you’ll know the real answer to why they periodically struggle with any or all of the above.
FEAR of real joy and contentment is the pernicious, subconscious undercurrent that keeps people fat, accident prone, sickly, unsuccessful in business AND love, and contributes to careless behaviors that yield under-gratifying outcomes.
Are YOU always waiting for the other shoe to drop whenever Life feels a little “too good”?? This issue (from childhood) CAN be eradicated, so you can start welcoming and creating the life you WANT, instead of pushing it away each time ya get close to grabbing the brass ring. Whadda concept, huh?
The problem here, is that far too many are resigned to living with a little bit of pain, dissatisfaction or “bad luck.” It’s actually comforting to ‘em to know exactly why they’re not 100% happy, rather than continually having to wonder or obsess about it.
Our life journey brings ups and downs, mostly to help us keep growing and becoming more empowered. Every challenge we surmount helps to make us a little stronger. We really don’t have to micro-manage our sense of discontent by putting more obstacles in our way, though many more than you might think, believe they do! Sometimes, shit just happens, without our ever having lifted a finger to orchestrate it.
We humans naturally wanna control the ‘shit that happens,’ in order to ease feelings of anxiety that surface when “things are feeling too good, and we can’t help but wonder when it’s all gonna be ripped away from us (by a natural disaster, quirk of fate, a Borderline Personality Disordered lover, or God).” As kids, we learned to fast-forward into the future to anticipate and prepare emotionally for shock and surprise, if something bad were to happen (‘cause it inevitably did!).
Nifty little trick, huh? This coping mechanism we developed early in childhood kept us alive. We emotionally steadied ourselves in this manner whenever disappointments or setbacks seemed imminent. We became programmed very young, to believe BAD always follows GOOD, because it reliably occurred right after we relished a few minutes of stability or calm! And so, just like Pavlov’s salivating dogs awaiting food when their dinner bell rang, the habit stuck with us.
Having worked successfully to dismantle and heal Anxiety Disorder issues for well over two decades, I assure you, it’s not difficult (with a little help) to turn this issue around for yourself~ and why wouldn’t you welcome a life that’s free of it?
Oh yeah, it’s a bit scary at first~ but that’s just a tiny slice of this pie if you have an expert guide to get ya to the other side of this dark, frightening tunnel to where ya never again have to fear and dread true Happiness.
By the way, I knew a man years ago, who was certain his wife would one day leave him. He was so obsessed with this notion, he became hypervigilant and overly-controlling of all her comings and goings. She loved him deeply, but ultimately felt suffocated by his jealousy and possessiveness, and fled their marriage like her hair was on fire.
Insecurity fueled his abandonment fears and never-ending suspicions~ and the only ray of comfort for him once she’d left, was having “seen it coming.” Nevermind, that he’d unwittingly orchestrated the demise of his marital bond (nobody can live joyfully as someone’s prisoner). At last, his reality precisely matched what he’d feared would happen, every single day. Metaphysicians would tell you this outcome was inevitable, because what we routinely envision, is what we manifest.
Prophesy Fulfillment is frequently the ‘booby prize’ we get to take home with us when we’re afraid to be in the moment and let ourselves experience divine sensations of bliss and glee. Sadly for millions, these feelings almost instantly convert to anxiety, because we can’t help but anticipate that disaster will surely follow.
This is merely a long-standing childhood superstition. Having entered adulthood, might you finally be willing to toss this one out?
I write about issues that plague most humans. If my posts speak to you, I’m happy to have helped you gain more self-awareness and enlightenment. If you think they might speak to a friend or relative, please care enough to share enough.