When it comes to Borderlines, you'll never see the deceit and betrayal coming, until it's too late.
The Borderline personality is predictable (especially if you've ingested a lot of my materials) but some of their behaviors can be so despicable, they're a bit shocking!
They may steal from you. In all innocence, you might give em your credit card to use when ordering a food delivery, and it's not beyond em to retain it, and use it for various purchases, Uber rides and even Amazon orders, once you've broken up (or even, beforehand)!
BTW, even if you block access to your CC # and future charges are refunded to you due to your fraudulent ex having made them, online stores like Amazon still put the orders thru! You literally have to close out your CC account with them, and put a new card on file.
Hell hath no FURY like a Borderline scorned. They'll stalk you, they'll vandalize your car and property, they'll commit theft if they have access to your apps or online retail sources.
They could file false police reports against you, claiming you attacked (or raped) them~ and remember, Borderlines are great actors! They can turn on the tears at will, and convince even the most hardened male cop, that they're the victim of YOUR cruelty.
Borderlines like very young children, are shortsighted. They never consider the consequences of their behaviors, and act only on impulse. Never are they circumspect~ even if it comes to putting themselves in harm's way, after frantically seeking your attention, or wanting revenge against you when they can't get it.
You naturally WANT to trust this individual when you first meet. You want to believe in every fiber of your body, that they're trust-worthy~ but you cannot.
Borderlines are developmentally arrested. This means their emotional age is somewhere around 3 years old. A lack of emotional development (typical for personality disordered people) means they're lacking MORAL development (the former is the foundation on which the latter is built).
You cannot expect even the most delightfully lovable Borderline (either male or female) to be honest with you. Oh, they may disarm you by being so verbally open and candid about their thoughts, feelings or past, but you'd be making a huge mistake to trust them.
You wouldn't put your heart in the hands of a toddler for safe-keeping, would you?? Well, you can never truly feel emotionally safe with a Borderline, either. I've said many times before now, folks with BPD aren't "bad people," and I hold to that~ but if you're investing your emotions OR wallet in a relationship with a Borderline, there's a train wreck waiting up ahead for ya, and wouldn't it really be best to start learning how to avert all that trauma?