When "leaving well-enough alone" isn't quite good enough.

Ya wanna find out where you are with your respective issues? Step back and take an objective look at where you are in your life, and how your past choices (both professional and personal) have turned out for you.

Now, try to see that exact picture projected onto an acquaintance. Would it occur to you that THEY could benefit from some helpful professional intervention??

The average human likes to make allowances and excuses for themselves. Their tendency is to minimize areas of frustration or discord and normalize them. Humans adapt, adjust, and keep moving onward, unless they're stopped in their tracks by excruciating pain that gets their attention in a manner that cannot be bypassed or trivialized.

These folks have developed an extremely high threshold for pain, both physical and emotional. THIS is why many get their worlds turned inside-out and upside-down by a BPD lover. That kind of anguish is totally essential, in order to get one's attention to what they've failed to do for decades of their life, in terms of Self-care and concern.

Most people don't shoot for contentment and joy. They're perfectly okay with merely surviving. The concept of thriving never even enters their imagination. It's totally outside one's frame of reference, based on their life experiences thus far.

Isn't it a bloody shame, that we want so little for ourselves, based on what we were programmed as children to believe we deserve?