WHEN YOU'VE GROWN UP HAVING TO BE TOUGH AND STRONG, 'CAUSE YOUR SURVIVAL DEPENDED ON IT
The inevitable plight of psycho-therapists.
I have never met a psychotherapist who didn't have BPD features. These manifest within their personal and professional domains, but are never recognized or identified for what they actually are, due to very narrow, stigmatic views they’ve held about WHAT BPD REALLY IS.
These folks have come to me with addiction issues, consistently disappointing/poor relationship outcomes, Anxiety Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive traits, unresolved depression, sleep disorders, untreated Bipolar Disorder symptoms, ADD/ADHD obstacles, weight control issues, deep-seated fear of genuine happiness and contentment, etc.
We humans learn to adapt and adjust to pain, because it's central to our survival strategy. It's much easier for us to normalize or globalize uncomfortable symptoms we've "learned to live with," than to accept they are outside the 'norm' of HEALTHY human interaction and experience.
We all wanna think of ourselves as "normal," and perhaps in context of the general population, we are~ but why are we so willing to live with disturbing or disruptive symptoms that prevent us from attaining glee, and actually THRIVING?
Anyone can learn to live with a splinter in their foot, which gets their painful attention when they wear certain pairs of shoes. The average person will just avoid wearing that particular footwear, rather than having the splinter expertly extracted.
THIS my friends, is the nature of humans. WHY is this, you ask? Because childhood history has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we can adapt to virtually ANY level of discomfort or pain, and keep on truckin'.
In the process, we've become inured to pain, made it our friend and reliably constant companion, and have taken pride in our ability to surmount or ignore it. Millions have built a very high threshold for enduring pain~ but the question that begs to be asked is, do we really BELIEVE we must inevitably maintain it? And if so, isn’t it because agony is a far more familiar sensation to us, than joy?