Women, Kids and Marriage: How often is the cart before the horse~ and has it exponentially increased the divorce rate ??
Call me crazy, but I've noticed something odd on certain FB profiles. You see women post their status as married, yet ONLY photos them and their child are displayed~ save a singular wedding day photo of them as a couple, in bride and groom attire.
You know me, right? It's not that I go looking for anomalies, they just sorta rear up on their haunches, and smack me in the face.
This type of profile makes me think their marital relationship got frozen in time and remained there~sort of like a fossil of a lizard or bird who once roamed the earth, but is now extinct.
We see that these individuals have "friends," but we see no pictures (but one) with their spouse. So I ask you: IS this a dynamic, loving, harmonious relationship? Or did these women marry because they really just wanted a kid, and this was the easiest way to get one?
OR, is the Mister so emotionally unresponsive, all the Missus's time, love, attachment and affection gets lavished on her kid, instead?? Either way, it doesn't seem healthy for anyone concerned~ and we KNOW what happens with mother-enmeshed children by now, don't we??
Kinda makes me wonder what's going on inside poor hubby around this issue, and how he feels being relegated to sitting on the sidelines, watching wifey carrying on an exclusive love affair with their child.
Remember, folks: The marital or coupled relationship with your partner, is what forms the basis of your child's ideation and understanding about what being in a committed relationship is supposed to look like and MEAN! Are you showing em it's safe, and loving, and something to look forward to when they're old enough to create that kind of dynamic for themselves??
Is this what your parents showed YOU?? Since the beginning of time, children have learned from examples we've set for them. What example have You been setting for your child about marriage?
God help us.
God help us, indeed.