Ya can't always get what you want (OR need)!
A year ago, in response to my video, "Hell hath no fury like a Borderline scorned," I received this from a gal who'd viewed it:
Hi Ms. Shari....I just want to say that as someone with undiagnosed BPD I appreciate your wisdom. I was initially diagnosed with depression, later with bi-polar 2 disorder but none of them really hit the nail on the head like BPD. I have mentioned this to therapist, and nobody wants to diagnose me with it. One even told me, BPD? Why would you want that?..lol There is definitely a stigma and I understand why. I am just now realizing after many years that my perception of things was not clear and caused me to destroy many relationships, opportunities etc.
So, now that I know what the symptoms are I see all of these things in myself and looking at past events differently. I wish I would have gotten help sooner. People used to tell me I was too sensitive. I was labeled the troubled child. I wish I would have learned coping skills so much earlier. I used to think I was highly intuitive but now I see that I have just been reading too much into things. How do you know the difference? I don't even know anymore.
Because of this inability to trust in my own discernment I find myself having to ask people...am I seeing this properly? Was that offensive or should I be taking this THAT seriously. Is this person actually interested in me romantically or are they just being nice? I actually appreciate you speaking with others on how to spot borderline traits and things of this nature. Truth be told, I am sure I have hurt a lot of people but never really saw this because I was too caught up in my own emotional drama. I am working on getting better by doing DBT! Wish me luck!
* I replied that DBT (in my experience) did not help Borderlines heal from this disorder. It merely helped curb volatile and violent acting-out behaviors. I hope she found the assistance she needed, because in today's world, it's a very rare event.