Happiness isn't about how much money you make, how in love with someone you are, or how many friends you have. We've all awakened at times with a mild sense of emptiness or depression, haven't we?
Do we make ourselves wrong for these feelings? Do we get angry at ourselves for feeling those darker emotions? Have we imagined most of our life that "Happiness" means we're supposed to feel exhilarated 24/7?
That's a lovely fantasy, but it's humanly impossible. We are complex and intricate creatures. We come into this life with a full repertoire of emotions, and with any luck, we're not forced to surrender ANY of em during childhood.
Did you awaken feeling light today? Joyous? Or is there a bit of darkness you're experiencing? Have ya got the blahs? Do ya feel a little empty or anxious? IT'S PERFECTLY OKAY.
Deep breathe into these sensations in your body. Rub and massage with your hand where it feels uncomfortable to you for two whole minutes. Don't shame yourself for these feelings, understand they're just parts of a normal emotional repertoire, and let's help you stop judging, fearing or dreading em.
Stay the fuck outta your head while you're self-soothing and reparenting yourself. Yes, that's right~ I'm teaching you HOW to re-Parent yourself, and get to full self-acceptance. We're not trying to make these feelings GO AWAY. We're merely learning to tolerate em. Endure em. Accept em as parts of being a whole, healthy human being.
Welcome to the work I did with thousands of clients over the course of more than two decades~ because we can't analyze our emotional pain and expect it to magically stop. Your body is your feeling organ, and your brain is your thinking organ.
If we try to heal deep, lifelong emotional pain by going thru the head, it's equivalent to consulting a brain surgeon to do bypass surgery or valve repair on your HEART. It never has worked, and it never will.
It's not that INSIGHT can't feel marvelous and deliciously satisfying, because the torment of not understanding something tends to make us obsess about it~ but it doesn't end emotional pain. Trauma is imbedded in the body's cellular structure and it stays there, until it is healed and purged thru non-cerebral means.
Practice these self-soothing tools. Shut off your mind. Comfort the sensations in your body, and deep breathe into them with NO MENTAL assignment of meaning attached to em. Learning to accept and not judge or fear these feelings, is your ticket to healing yourself. I had to include these methods in my anti-anxiety course, because we can't eradicate anxiety and panic, without getting you emotionally whole and well.
Thank you!!!
Fantastic advice, Shari! 👍😀