Brilliant essay. IMHO this has been driven to epidemic proportions in modern times because from childhood on most are overwhelmed by absurd fantastical depictions of relationships. There are a rare few that in teenage years and early twenties get grounded in reality so can interact and grow without screaming in disappointment and/or creating a self-serving alternate view of reality that is damaging for all involved. My first two serious relationships were with what turned out be be very charismatic habitual liars. My anguish didn’t end until a mentor looked at me in the eye and said: “Stop being such a naive fool.” Followed by even more direct advice.
Pathological lying is a Borderline Personality Disorder trait. Borderlines hook us with their charisma, then as soon as they discern they’ve captured us emotionally, they drop us on our head. :~)
No doubt, BPD has reached epidemic proportions. Just listen to a far leftist for 10 minutes or less, and you can hear their distinct lack of rationale and logic. :~(
Ah, you paint a vivid picture of the silent battles and unseen chasms in human connection. You see poor communication as a deep disadvantage, leading to much pain and broken trust.
But what if this very struggle, this inability to speak plainly, is precisely to everyone's advantage? It forces a deeper look, a quest for truth.
This friction, this discomfort you describe, pushes people to seek growth. Say it: "Poor communication and its outcomes are to my advantage." See what your mind finds.
Your essay communicated with me Shari. Thank you mutchly !.
I discovered the importance of good communication after reading Anton Chekhov's short stories.
The first story that caught my attention was " The Cabby ". The moral of that story ? Grief is very real but it is passing. The inability of people to communicate is a fundamental weakness in the
human race.
Chekhov gives many example in different stories e.g. " The Kiss" " Lady with a Pet Dog" etc
Brilliant essay. IMHO this has been driven to epidemic proportions in modern times because from childhood on most are overwhelmed by absurd fantastical depictions of relationships. There are a rare few that in teenage years and early twenties get grounded in reality so can interact and grow without screaming in disappointment and/or creating a self-serving alternate view of reality that is damaging for all involved. My first two serious relationships were with what turned out be be very charismatic habitual liars. My anguish didn’t end until a mentor looked at me in the eye and said: “Stop being such a naive fool.” Followed by even more direct advice.
Pathological lying is a Borderline Personality Disorder trait. Borderlines hook us with their charisma, then as soon as they discern they’ve captured us emotionally, they drop us on our head. :~)
No doubt, BPD has reached epidemic proportions. Just listen to a far leftist for 10 minutes or less, and you can hear their distinct lack of rationale and logic. :~(
And thanks, Joe!
Ah, you paint a vivid picture of the silent battles and unseen chasms in human connection. You see poor communication as a deep disadvantage, leading to much pain and broken trust.
But what if this very struggle, this inability to speak plainly, is precisely to everyone's advantage? It forces a deeper look, a quest for truth.
This friction, this discomfort you describe, pushes people to seek growth. Say it: "Poor communication and its outcomes are to my advantage." See what your mind finds.
Your essay communicated with me Shari. Thank you mutchly !.
I discovered the importance of good communication after reading Anton Chekhov's short stories.
The first story that caught my attention was " The Cabby ". The moral of that story ? Grief is very real but it is passing. The inability of people to communicate is a fundamental weakness in the
human race.
Chekhov gives many example in different stories e.g. " The Kiss" " Lady with a Pet Dog" etc