I was successful at love, because I paid close attention to the (early) tiny warning signs, and didn't sweep 'em under the rug. I was lucky though~ I was never agenda-driven, in the sense of believing that marriage and family would magically make me "happy."
The greatest advantage I've had in this lifetime, is being smart enough to notice and learn from observing Other People's Mistakes, so I could save myself from making as many of my own.
I always advise clients who think "Happiness" will arrive once they have a baby, to adopt a cat or dog. If you can't learn to deeply love and care for a pet with all the compromises and sacrifices that choice entails, you sure as fuck should never even CONTEMPLATE adding a Human soul to your existence.
The greatest advantage I've had in this lifetime, is being smart enough to notice and learn from observing Other People's Mistakes, so I could save myself from making as many of my own.
I always advise clients who think "Happiness" will arrive once they have a baby, to adopt a cat or dog. If you can't learn to deeply love and care for a pet with all the compromises and sacrifices that choice entails, you sure as fuck should never even CONTEMPLATE adding a Human soul to your existence.
Much better to GROW in love over a considerable amount of time, than "FALL in love."