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I loved reading this article, Shari - thank you for giving suicide victims a voice. In all my life, I've known of two people who took their own lives: a neighbor who lived a few houses down growing up, and a friend's sister (which eerily enough, the day of your posting this article is also her birthday). But there is also a third - the father of a friend I made later in life. But I was shocked to know that his father's burial place (at the church in his village in Mexico) was not allowed to be shared with others who had a more "honorable" death. Hearing that truly aggravated and broke me.

I've been thinking a lot about this recently (not suicide), but just what drives people to take such extreme reactions. I am beginning to realize that we are all beings of truth. In some way we are hardwired to know our own inner selves/authentic truth of who we are, and if that justice is not done to us (due to bad mirroring or so), it turns us and gets us acting out. Eventually, it has some of us take these kinds of actions (or I'd say these kind of actions take us).

I'm also so glad you mention the hyper-sensitivity to stimulation - I feel like this is exactly where I am right now in my healing. I've grown to prefer my own company where I have some say in the quality of my thoughts and experience. At first, I thought it was just a "quarantine hangover" from the 3-year long quarantine we were under due to Covid, but now that I've been returning to work, I find myself avoiding coworkers and office parties. I take the quiet hallway to my desk at work etc, I take the stairwell to the parking lot instead of the elevator. Would you know what this is due to?

I'm sure to others I'm now seen as a recluse. Part of me wonders how long this phase will go on for as I also don't want to lose touch with the outside world, but I am also relieved to know that this is part of the healing process. It feels quite validating that this overcorrection isn't uncommon and maybe is in direct proportion to how much I had derailed from my own inner values.

Thanks again for this piece. I've added it to my list of writings from yours : )

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Eliza57's avatar

Thank you for your insight to this topic. I would be interested in your voice as to why women also choose suicide. When at my personal darkness nadir I imagined it would be to an end to the endless inner repetitive voices. Seeking a cool place of quiet and comfort - no more "a life of quiet desperation." And people telling you to snap out of it. Thank you for insight. We've lost too many sweet souls. And as you mentioned years ago - the wrong people are in therapy.

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