If you grew up with emotionally and/or physically abusive parents, it’s likely you fear any individual who makes you feel threatened or unsafe. Tens of thousands of grown men and women are afraid to leave a dangerous and toxic relationship dynamic, due to this childhood programming.
I’m realizing how my learned helplessness was all due to burnout from trying to achieve very idealistic ideals and expectations. “The impossible tightrope” as I remember you mentioning in another article. It’s weirdly self-prophecisizing. It is scarier still how these ideals, expectations, values etc that we are conditioned with are in actual direct competition with our true values. I’m at that point in my healing where I’m now sorting out these false values and beliefs (which for the longest time contributed to my learned helplessness and had me stay stuck not living from my potential) with my actual values and beliefs (which are igniting my potential). It’s such a mess to entangle, but also freeing to realize that it’s not a deficit but all in the conditioning :” (
I’m realizing how my learned helplessness was all due to burnout from trying to achieve very idealistic ideals and expectations. “The impossible tightrope” as I remember you mentioning in another article. It’s weirdly self-prophecisizing. It is scarier still how these ideals, expectations, values etc that we are conditioned with are in actual direct competition with our true values. I’m at that point in my healing where I’m now sorting out these false values and beliefs (which for the longest time contributed to my learned helplessness and had me stay stuck not living from my potential) with my actual values and beliefs (which are igniting my potential). It’s such a mess to entangle, but also freeing to realize that it’s not a deficit but all in the conditioning :” (