Just another day in Paradise~
along with a few words to the wise.
OPM stands for Other People’s Mistakes. Observing and paying close attention to what choices and decisions have worked to enhance other people’s lives and which haven’t, has been enormously beneficial to me. You might wanna try learning and applying this principle to your own life, to (at least) deter some heartache and financial setbacks that may loom ahead.
A fair number of clients have told me how “strong” their mother is/was, and they admire her for this characteristic. During the process of questioning them about this maternal ideation, it’s become apparent that they’ve confused domineering, controlling behaviors with genuine strength.
An authentically strong or powerful individual never needs to hyper-control others~ not their spouse, not their kids, not their friends… NOBODY. They feel and own their power on a cellular level in their body, and feel no inclination or desire to manipulate or abuse others with it.
Genuinely empowered people live with a sense of joy and inner-peace. They’ve done the requisite hard work on themselves over the course of many years or decades to grow a solid sense of self-satisfaction, real and concrete esteem for themselves, and their positive sense of Self is not dependent on fixing, rescuing, or taking care of others.
This is not to suggest that empowered people are not kind, generous and giving. Quite the opposite is true. Their inner well is almost always full, so it’s frequently a simple matter to gleefully share their bounty, and give others a drink from it!
Truly powerful people are determined to seek others who are as empowered as they, and closely aligned with them. They do NOT prey on the weak and needy, and are in fact, repulsed when they encounter emotionally parasitic individuals, rather than feeling attracted to them.
Like attracts like, and birds of a feather flock together. You will never meet a genuinely empowered individual who has hooked-up with someone who’s not, because they’re simply not a vibrational match. Add to this, an Up Person will never bring a down person up, because the former is making a conscious choice to remain in the company of the latter. A Down Person will almost always bring an Up Person’s vibrational frequency down, because that’s what one who is drowning, always does.
We attract the relationship we deep-down believe we deserve. When our self-worth needs repair, we’ll settle for a lot less (on numerous fronts, both professionally and personally) than we say or think we really want.
A fellow I’ve known for over 50 years once said to me, “Shari, if you wanna know what you WANT, look around at what you HAVE. You’ve created that reality for yourself, and if you genuinely wanted something different, you’d get busy creating that reality for yourself, instead.”
I never forgot this pearl of wisdom. I’ve retained it, utilized it, and quoted it as much as I’ve quoted little gems of hardcore wisdom my dad shared with me during my young adult years. I’m passing these gifts onto You, because maybe they’ll help alter the course of your life, as remarkably as they did mine.
What I like about this post is the part about vibrations. “You will never meet a genuinely empowered individual who has hooked-up with someone who’s not, because they’re simply not a vibrational match.“ Now that I’m happy and content with life, I’ve noticed a multitude of bridges evaporating. No, not even burning. The bridges just went away.
Of course, these bridges extended to mentally ill people, mostly fools who voted for Kamala. However, not all. Living in San Francisco, the less depressed and authentic I become, the more the liberals go away. For the past nine years, I’ve performed music & comedy on stage along the Left Coast, constantly getting infected by the diseased “victims” of America.
These individuals have actively worked to kill my career and to isolate me into suicide. I guess making pro-Trump / anti-stupidity jokes was a “bad” idea (it wasn’t). My so-called friends revealed their bigotry and decided I am enemy number one because I voted for Trump; they split on me, switching from love to pure hatred. After all, I voted for Hitler 2.0 in their blind eyes, so surely I’m subhuman and deserve to die. Right.
I don’t want to call them stupid because that’s not a fair assessment. As a former IQ tester, I know the deal. These liberals are sick. Now, imagine a drunk person taking an IQ test. They’ll perform worse than if they were sober because the inebriation causes them to become disoriented. Therefore, intoxication can temporarily reduce intelligence.
The liberals are all but permanently disoriented because they never sober up. Doing so would require ditching atheism, which most leftists wear as a badge of honor. So, what I’ve noticed since the election as well as my escape from depression is that the vibes have shifted; and now I’m alone.
It’s soul-opening to look back and realize that I was surrounding myself with diseased people in Seattle & San Francisco’s open mic scenes. I’m a tolerant person, so I was willing to put up with liberal expression. At the same time, the reason I was gravitating toward those scenes was my own sickness. I was mentally ill in my own ways; and if I were healthy like I am now, I would have never walked into those venues nor associated with those people.
I’ve also lost connection with some Republicans because they’re Catholics. Fact is, Catholics are intoxicated in their own way - some worse than others. I felt surprised three weeks ago when I texted two of my life-long Catholic friends, both of whom despise liberal ideology, simply saying, “goodbye.”
Why would I cut off two seemingly great friendships with smart people? Was I splitting or discarding? No. Truth is, I realized that these “friends” were no longer a vibrational match. They are abusers who are approaching the age of 40 wifeless because of their limiting, soul-crushing religion. Thank God Trump isn’t Catholic!
So, the point of writing this is to acknowledge what you said about vibrational matches. Now that I’m (mostly) mentally healthy, the diseased liberals and religious fools of the world repel like a magnet; and it’s all good. I’m never really alone because I have God; and our connection continues to improve as my doubt in God dissipates.
If you knew a dance hall was filled with sick, infectious people, would you go in? I would like to think the answer is no. Sane people try to stay healthy, and they avoid contaminated areas. It’s not a matter of hatred nor discrimination. Smart people avoid sickness. Liberals, most religious folk, and frankly most USAers are infecting one-another.
Our schools, hospitals, churches, entertainment venues, government institutions, streets… they’re infested with bad vibes. It’s no wonder that the majority of people present as Cluster B. NPD, BPD, HPD, & ASPD are a result of infection of the mind. Thought viruses lead to disordered behavior. These thoughts spread, polluting the brains of children who grow up thinking mental sickness & abusive, destructive behavior are normal.
In a sense we create our own universe. What amazes me is the vast array of talent which is to be found in human species. ...e.g. art, literature, music, science, sporting skills etc.
We are not all the same.