Nobody wants to accept or admit, there are 'payoffs' for remaining emotionally impaired.
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Sometimes we unconsciously want to RETAIN our struggles, due to fearing our established relationship will not sustain our getting well, and feeling empowered. This happens A LOT between impaired partners and their fixer/rescuer counterparts. When the struggling partner gains strength, it throws the relationship dynamic off-center.
Nobody wants to accept or admit, there are 'payoffs' for remaining emotionally impaired.
Nobody wants to accept or admit, there are…
Nobody wants to accept or admit, there are 'payoffs' for remaining emotionally impaired.
Sometimes we unconsciously want to RETAIN our struggles, due to fearing our established relationship will not sustain our getting well, and feeling empowered. This happens A LOT between impaired partners and their fixer/rescuer counterparts. When the struggling partner gains strength, it throws the relationship dynamic off-center.