Super-Givers ATTRACT Super-Takers!

What constitutes a "good person?"

It’s a fact, that the one who needs the least in a relationship dynamic, is the one who’s always in power. The Super-giver tells himself he expects “nothing in return” for his giving gestures, which is great~ because the impaired others he gives to, cannot reciprocate his generosity! This wasn’t part of their ‘unspoken contract,’ when they first joined. This type of relationship is never anything but a one-way street~ it can never be reciprocal.

It’s not that The Giver receives nothing in response to his giving gestures~ it’s that they reinforce for him his ideation that he is a “good person.” This seems enough to carry him along, until he feels the need once again, to refuel and reinforce this self-image by finding ways to fix, rescue or take care of others~ even when his own well has run dry.

For every GIVER, there must be a TAKER, because Life has a unique way of balancing the scales. But who IS one who compulsively feels a need to give, if there’s no one around to receive what he wants to give?! If these behavior patterns are abruptly halted, and one is not permitted to keep giving, who is he or she? Might this inability to give of oneself, trigger an Identity Crisis??

When you’ve felt like “no good deed goes unpunished,” it’s due to the fact that receivers of your kind and charitable acts, cannot help but feel ‘less-than’ you. If you’re the guy or gal who’s always picking up the tab for your group at lunch, your unconscious need is to remain in the one-up position with your compadres, because it’s validating to your sense of Self.

This isn’t consciously held by you, ‘cause in Your mind, you’re just being a ‘great guy or gal,’ and extending a kindness to others~ but they resent you for it, just the same.

Another aspect to consider when you’re a Super-giver, is this: When you live with the addictive compulsion to give because it helps you feel good about yourself, why in the world would you wanna deprive others of this pleasurable experience?!

The Super-giver feels uncomfortable, even when receiving a compliment. He/she doesn’t feel worthy of receiving praise from another, and difficult/icky feelings are invoked when somebody dares to offer it. Often, the Giver personality will feel an uncomfortable sense of obligation to give back, never recognizing how much he’s already given.

Super-givers will either make a joke and laugh it off when ya compliment ‘em, or they’ll invalidate your perceptions. The same unsettling emotional reactions occur when a Giver is given to, in the form of a gift, favor or kind and loving gesture. Can you even imagine being married to someone like this?

The tide of the ocean routinely goes out to sea, but It must return to shore with sand and shells it carries and deposits, or no beaches would exist anywhere in the world! If it gives us pleasure to give to another~ but we have difficulty receiving, we not only incur resentment from others, we may too often try to give ‘em a drink of water from an empty well.

This is an addictive, compulsive way to retain our relationships, and it seriously undermines healthy, mutually nourishing attachment bonds.

The USA has been a Pathologically Codependent Nation for far too many decades. We’ve rushed to the aid of other countries, meddled in their wars, given gargantuan sums of money and arms to fight their battles and feed their civilians~ yet in the final analysis, what have we to show for it?

I’ve often wondered when it’s gonna be America’s turn to receive care and aid. Might doing so evoke shame for us as a (former) “World Power,” to be on the receiving end of another country’s support and help?? Aren’t we NOW in 2024, at the point of needing it?

What precisely would receiving supplies from other nations actually mean to us? Could we tolerate the feelings it invokes~ and might it diminish our (grandiose) sense of “strength and might” we’ve long-deluded ourselves into thinking we actually still have?

The narcissism America carries is nothing short of prodigious, just as it is within millions of individuals who feel a compulsive need to be in the driver’s seat in all their relationship dynamics! In truth, deep-seated insecurity and poor self-worth drives this compulsion. There are no exceptions.

A deep sense of insecurity and inadequacy spawns grand compensatory behaviors to help mask and/or deny one’s own vulnerability and fragility. ALL living, breathing creatures are on occasion, vulnerable. Only a supreme Narcissist feels the need to refute this.

Remember, the one who NEEDS the least in any relationship dynamic, is always the one in power. Take an honest assessment of how this ideation has worked out today, for the US. Our fucking dollar is on the verge of complete collapse, for chrissake!

The harm this has caused America as a once-vibrant, somewhat invincible nation, is incalculable! All ya need to do is assess our military and the pansies who’ve infiltrated it, to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we wouldn’t stand a snowball’s chance in Hell, to survive a foreign attack!

We are currently on our knees, just struggling to survive under massive debt amounting to trillions of dollars (and that’s just the interest~ not the principle), we are being overrun by illegal migrants, many of whom are criminals and mentally unstable individuals who are flocking here from hostile nations, thanks to the Biden/Harris partners-in-crime fiasco.

Unbridled decades of egomaniacal choices and actions, have had us focused on other nations’ problems, while essentially ignoring our own.

If the parents of a family gave care, food, clothing and shelter to neighboring kids but neglected to provide enough of these resources to their own kids, might their children question their worth and lovability, and grow up feeling resentful?? Might at least some of the destructive riots we’ve had to endure around our country be attributed to this?

American citizens (the ones who are conscious, anyway) are utterly furious about the Biden/Harris admin’s insane policies and antics~ and to make matters worse, our VP (Kamalalalalalalala) continues to pour salt into our gaping, bleeding, virtually irreparable wounds, by welcoming millions of new aliens into this country, thinking this will clinch her election for “president!” How did we ever allow this to happen to us?

How DOES a nation like America give away countless billions of dollars to another country, while her own ‘children’ are starving in the streets, and her welfare system is teetering on the edge of bankruptcy? Do we just not notice our needful own, because we receive far more accolades, ego-fueling kudos and press coverage from nations who merely wish to take advantage of our “kind and generous nature?”

Have ANY of America’s ‘good deeds’ been rewarded? Or is this administration merely laundering money and lining its pockets with the ripe, delectable fruit of senseless, youth murdering wars?

My dad once said to me as a teen: “Make sure you clean up the mess in your own backyard, before you start workin’ on someone else’s.” Solid advice from a wise man… thank you, Daddy.

This obsession of ours to keep pouring resources into other countries who resent the hell out of us, is solely ego-driven, self-serving and self-destructive. We’ve all but lost the value of the US dollar, and yet we’ve still not come outta the ether and seen how we’ve brought about the utter demise of our once great (albeit pathologically Codependent) nation!

ARE the people we elect to be our leaders actually this unconscious, shortsighted and incredibly STUPID (and did you watch that Trump/Harris debate??) Have they really NO common sense~ or does their acute narcissism override any familiarity with the concept of Cause and Effect?

Who IS America, if it can no longer fix, rescue and help everyone who has their hand outstretched, expecting us (“The Super Power”) to keep giving till we bleed~ and are we not there already??

You tell Me.