Talking about core pain doesn't heal it~ but you can OUTGROW the trauma you carry inside, that creates dysfunction.
IF you only seek therapeutic support when you feel down or in crisis, the rest of your life will continue to be plagued with these feelings. Growth or emotional development work can ONLY occur, when there are no dragons to slay or fires to put out.
Humans who grew up under abusive, neglectful circumstances in their home of origin, became CRISIS ORIENTED. They developed an addiction of sorts to drama, chaos and setbacks, because it's what triggers an adrenaline rush for them, as it did when they were little. They adapted to these feelings by believing they were "normal," and to be expected in their everyday adult life.
To break someone of adrenaline addiction (which triggers feelings of ALIVENESS, whether the prompting stressor is positive OR negative) is not an easy task. It CAN be accomplished though, through diligent attention to emotional growth, so that even subtle feelings can get one's attention, and be experienced in the body.
In short, we can OUTGROW any type of addiction, when we are taught to perceive all types of feelings in the physical body, especially the most SUBTLE ones, and become responsive to them.
Anxiety Disorder and OCD symptoms germinate directly from dissociation from our emotions, from the time we're about 2 years old. Our first impulse when we're feeling down or bad, is to go straight up into our head to make sense of those sensations~ which keeps them alive and vibrant, never to be healed or resolved.
The psychotherapy profession believes strongly in this modality of treatment, and wants you to analyze where difficult feelings or pain came from (historically) and why it's still with you, after decades spent trying to abolish it. It never HAS eliminated human pain, and it never will~ as long as it vilifies "bad" feelings and urges you to separate yourself from them (which is the true meaning of emotional dissociation).
Core damaged children grow into core damaged adults, and there's no way around this outcome, unless a unique and specialized type of professional intervention is employed to rid one of their core trauma, which is kept and stored in the human body on a CELLULAR level. No type of intellectual or mental assistance can remove this trauma, as it requires an unconventional approach to shrinking and HEALING ONE'S inner agony, as opposed to talking, thinking about and analyzing it.
Almost nobody on planet Earth performs this type of work. I am a member of an extremely small segment of practitioners, in this regard. Alice Miller it is said, was light-years ahead of her time, and nobody appreciated her insights and work during the years she was alive.
I used to fantasize that I'd be posthumously famous for my views, concepts and unique assistance to people all over the globe~ but once you're dead and buried, the fruits of your labors can only benefit others~ not yourself.
Still, I take heart in the fact that I've made a significant and real difference in the lives of millions of people~ most of whom I've never had direct contact with, or met. I suppose for now, that's gonna have to be good enough for Me.