Your publication here resonates with me. My mother’s family of women are all victim, low self worth, who have learned massive skills at manipulation, guilt, gaslighting, betrayal, to survive. When my mother “dis owned” me for the fourth time (and then she blamed my dad to me - and blamed me to him) when I was a divorced 28 year old making my own decisions she didn’t like, her last note to me for five years was “life is pain and pain is life”.
No. It’s not. And I am no longer a victim to her and that family, because their survival was I -and the world- owed them. I was responsible and they all lived off other people’s decisions, other people’s money and played manipulating victim to the max. And when I figured out I was not a loved member of a family and decided I no longer owe them anything, they got other people to investigate me with a myriad of false allegations.
Looking within with personal responsibility to heal and strengthen our connection to our selves, our North Star intuition, and our traumas and not looking to everyone outside to fix our problems first. Even therapists guide and educate but they don’t fix our problems, we must.
Congrats! I spent time with a new neighbor friend last night. We talked and shared about people in our respective family trees who have BPD traits (which it appears you’ve described here).
Folks used to talk of “family skeletons.” This new friend has cut off all contact with one of her sisters (4 other siblings in all), due to the toxicity inherent in the one. I resoundingly congratulated her.
It is said that blood is thicker than water~ yet it’s just as easy to drown in. hen we finally get to an age of maturity when we can distinguish that it’s not We who are defective but They who are, it can feel VERY freeing to sever the ties that bind. :~]
Great article 🤩👍
True, knowing “about”something is one thing. Knowing “you” Know, is an entirely different experience.
And when you do, you also Know if “others” do or don’t also. And there’s always, always, room to grow, in That knowing…. 🤩
Thanks!
Your publication here resonates with me. My mother’s family of women are all victim, low self worth, who have learned massive skills at manipulation, guilt, gaslighting, betrayal, to survive. When my mother “dis owned” me for the fourth time (and then she blamed my dad to me - and blamed me to him) when I was a divorced 28 year old making my own decisions she didn’t like, her last note to me for five years was “life is pain and pain is life”.
No. It’s not. And I am no longer a victim to her and that family, because their survival was I -and the world- owed them. I was responsible and they all lived off other people’s decisions, other people’s money and played manipulating victim to the max. And when I figured out I was not a loved member of a family and decided I no longer owe them anything, they got other people to investigate me with a myriad of false allegations.
Looking within with personal responsibility to heal and strengthen our connection to our selves, our North Star intuition, and our traumas and not looking to everyone outside to fix our problems first. Even therapists guide and educate but they don’t fix our problems, we must.
Congrats! I spent time with a new neighbor friend last night. We talked and shared about people in our respective family trees who have BPD traits (which it appears you’ve described here).
Folks used to talk of “family skeletons.” This new friend has cut off all contact with one of her sisters (4 other siblings in all), due to the toxicity inherent in the one. I resoundingly congratulated her.
It is said that blood is thicker than water~ yet it’s just as easy to drown in. hen we finally get to an age of maturity when we can distinguish that it’s not We who are defective but They who are, it can feel VERY freeing to sever the ties that bind. :~]
That was shit! Lol
Scam!! Fraud!!!
Shes a fruad… a Fraud…