Many think (after reading my online BPD materials) that if they’ve hooked up with a Borderline, that man or woman has the same traits as their mother does or did. This isn’t necessarily true, though I’ve worked with more than a few males who’ve stated that their BPD lover bore an uncanny resemblance to their mom when she was much younger.
"Sadly, too many regard it as an obligation or nuisance."
With very tragic consequences, if I may add.