When we have attachment fears (a BPD trait), they spill over into any therapeutic relationship we might form, as well. We act-out our fears surrounding getting closer to someone/anyone, and find ways to distance. We always make it the "other person's" fault things aren't working out better, to maintain denial of our own inability to bond with a suitable partner. UNSUITABLE partners and under-skilled therapists are our Comfort Zone. We might remain with either indefinitely~ rather than taking the emotional risks needed to truly grow and heal ourselves.
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything.
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything.
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything.
When we have attachment fears (a BPD trait), they spill over into any therapeutic relationship we might form, as well. We act-out our fears surrounding getting closer to someone/anyone, and find ways to distance. We always make it the "other person's" fault things aren't working out better, to maintain denial of our own inability to bond with a suitable partner. UNSUITABLE partners and under-skilled therapists are our Comfort Zone. We might remain with either indefinitely~ rather than taking the emotional risks needed to truly grow and heal ourselves.