Interesting! On my clinical psychology training, my favourite lecturer used to say that on some level, “we all marry our mother” whether we are man or woman. Your description of Diana reminds me of the philanthropic “compassionate” yet child-neglecting Elizabeth Taylor, whose life i looked at in an article a couple of months ago. BPD can come with varying degrees of narcissism which in itself can gravitate to fame or even royal marriage.
PS: Your favorite lecturer was spot-on! I speak to this issue of intrinsic bonding with our birth mother, extensively in my book, DO YOU LOVE TO BE NEEDED, OR NEED TO BE LOVED? I dedicated it (in part) to my psychiatrist (from when I was 20) whose comment was, “everyone in treatment should be reading this book!”
Yes, indeed. If you can understand the intrinsic bond of oneness we form with Mother in-utero, and that we are already in love with her before birth, doesn’t it put a different spin on abortion?
Doesn’t it explain how people are utterly seduced by the love-bombing a Borderline (male or female) does when they first meet us, and how we come to trust that they’re a “perfect fit” for us, because they appear to “like” all the things we do?? (as part of their seduction strategy).
Both males and females are looking (lifelong) for that special sense of oneness with another, they experienced in-utero with Mother. It’s after they’re born their trouble begins, when she is not emotionally equipped to bond with them, due to postpartum depression and/or BPD traits.
Many Borderlines (in my view) have postpartum depression. Can you even imagine the immediate abandonment trauma this presents to a newborn?
Interesting! On my clinical psychology training, my favourite lecturer used to say that on some level, “we all marry our mother” whether we are man or woman. Your description of Diana reminds me of the philanthropic “compassionate” yet child-neglecting Elizabeth Taylor, whose life i looked at in an article a couple of months ago. BPD can come with varying degrees of narcissism which in itself can gravitate to fame or even royal marriage.
PS: Your favorite lecturer was spot-on! I speak to this issue of intrinsic bonding with our birth mother, extensively in my book, DO YOU LOVE TO BE NEEDED, OR NEED TO BE LOVED? I dedicated it (in part) to my psychiatrist (from when I was 20) whose comment was, “everyone in treatment should be reading this book!”
I took it as a compliment.
Yes, indeed. If you can understand the intrinsic bond of oneness we form with Mother in-utero, and that we are already in love with her before birth, doesn’t it put a different spin on abortion?
Doesn’t it explain how people are utterly seduced by the love-bombing a Borderline (male or female) does when they first meet us, and how we come to trust that they’re a “perfect fit” for us, because they appear to “like” all the things we do?? (as part of their seduction strategy).
Both males and females are looking (lifelong) for that special sense of oneness with another, they experienced in-utero with Mother. It’s after they’re born their trouble begins, when she is not emotionally equipped to bond with them, due to postpartum depression and/or BPD traits.
Many Borderlines (in my view) have postpartum depression. Can you even imagine the immediate abandonment trauma this presents to a newborn?