Men married to Borderlines always get it wrong, when they "stay for the children's sake." It's a convenient, tidy little excuse to postpone leaving for all the SECRET reasons guys have, like guilt, fear of being alone, intimidation about entering the dating scene again, etc... still, two wrongs NEVER make a right.
Thanks, Dario! Sounds like I'm in good company (even if the other guy isn't breathing anymore)!