Sitemap - 2022 - Shari’s Newsletter

Beware of false prophets, or those who know less than they want you to think they do.

The dangers of settling for LESS in a relationship, than we want and need

Contrary to popular belief, Borderlines do NOT fear abandonment!

To be, or NOT to be a parent

"And I've been thinking, I was the HEALTHY partner!"

Tucker Carlson: 2022 was the year of lying

"Just what IS a Borderline?"

What IS a Borderline~ do you know? Can you tell when you meet one??

Do you really want what you SAY you want?

Entitlement Issues~ they're NOT what you think!

When dysfunction has become our constant and most-trusted companion

Enmeshment~ the bane of a child's existence.

What about those who say, "I wish I hadn't permanently altered my body" ?

What's in a label~ CAN it help us recover from our relationship with a toxic Ex??

"Even though I'm bleeding badly, I'm okay~ but are YOU??"

How "toxic" is NPD versus BPD?

Friend, Family or Foe?

To feel, or NOT to feel: A disconcerting, yet essential human choice.

You always have to maintain the upper hand, when dealing with Borderlines!

THE PURE FOLLY OF ATTEMPTING TO FIX BROKEN LOVERS

Unlucky in Love~ or just not looking before you leap?

Is the Loneliness Monster living at YOUR house?

Verbal interaction shouldn't feel like a blood sport.

Excerpt from my upcoming book: The Borderline Personality Client

When your Borderline client says, "I think I love you!"

Long time, no see . . .

To Tweet or NOT to Tweet? That is the question facing THIS former account holder.

What will societies look like, when we all appear exactly the same?

I defy convention, 'cause I choose NOT to be like everyone else. How about You?

The party who NEEDS THE LEAST in a relationship dynamic, is always the one in power.

Crazy is, as crazy does.

Do you ever wonder if your mind is slipping?

How long have YOU been under psychotherapeutic treatment?

Your Intuition never lies to you, but your mind surely does.

Do YOU hold your anger in?

Understanding BPD~ it's NOT rocket science, though it seems that way to most.

If you want to ensure you'll never be hurt by someone you love and admire, adopt a dog.

Oh, what tangled webs we weave . . .

IS it better to have loved and lost, when it hurts so damned much??

Growth and Healing, vs Therapy

Problems vs Issues

From the mouth of a comedian

Can you accept criticism~ no matter how gently it's delivered?

Talking about core pain doesn't heal it~ but you can OUTGROW the trauma you carry inside, that creates dysfunction.

Do YOU know the meaning of Friendship?

What's in a word? EVERYTHING!

Everything you've ever wanted to know about BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), but were afraid to ask.

Rage is your most passionate emotion. Celebrate it!

Our Midterm Election: When Outcome is a brutal reality pill to be choked-down.

Ya get what ya pay for.

Loss

Our so-called "President."

Listen here . . .

Different Strokes

Wouldn't ya know it . . .

Spare the rod, spoil the child

Is it Chance~ or Divine Intervention?

Well, fuckadoodie!

Everything you've always wanted to know about SEX, but were afraid to ask!

They say, "lovers come and go, but friends are forever." (It's a load of crap.)

The Borderline's Crucible

Money matters, and the lies we tell ourselves about it.

Talk is cheap.

A dollar saved, is a dollar earned.

Force of Habit: Saying YES, when ya don't want to.

Stranger things have happened!

Children are like dogs. Very seldom will they express their inner pain.

Abortion: NOT an acceptable form of Birth Control.

Between the Devil and the deep blue sea: My Samsung "repair" nightmare!

Sympathy and Empathy are NOT the same!

Do ya stay too long at the fair in relationships?

Do YOU judge and suppress your anger?

Emotional Baggage vs Cargo

The Devil you KNOW . . .

CVS counters Texas ‘tampon tax’ with 25% off menstrual products

Nobody wants to accept or admit, there are 'payoffs' for remaining emotionally impaired.

Gurus and trust~ the two are not necessarily synonymous.

When survival of one's spirit means, ya HAVE to care less.

Best not to "fall," but rather to GROW in love.

Wahooo! A new social media platform where I can state whatever I want, without fear of repercussion.

A trip to the moon~ or just one of those things?

Help in the nick of time~ or is it?

WHY do we humans steer away from Right choices and behaviors that can serve us?

Psychotherapy versus Healing Work~ there ARE radical and essential differences!

How Learned Helplessness PREVENTS good men and women from leaving highly toxic relationships.

How Learned Helplessness PREVENTS good men and women from leaving highly toxic relationships.

Quit feeding the BPD monster, that thrives on conflict, drama and chaos!

Boys cannot be helped to mature into Men, as long as psychotherapists are determined to feminize them!

Is our payoff in the journey to the top~ or in having reached our destination? I believe it's the former.

Are YOU still chasing love from someone who can't supply it?

Is this new romance "The Real Thing," or just wishful thinking and fantasy?

Even CRAZIER, after all these years!

Do you shame yourself for setbacks, or feeling down?

What is real love?

Why is finding true love so darned hard?!

You cannot resolve a situation with the same consciousness that created it.

Sane and rational minds prevail~ and here's one for ya:

Borderlines do NOT fear abandonment. They fear attachment.

Human nature's a trip!

The BPD Merri-go-round

Is it Gender Dysmorphia~ or societal, political and familial depression?

Is it Me, or Them? Untangling the BPD Odyssey

Lest ye forget~ little known facts about BPD

Men are too malleable!

The Green New Hoax

Like attracts like.

The downside of being a published author

My tragic flaw . . .

Just what IS a "Dissociative Disorder?"

Do you ever wonder WHY some actors get type-cast??

Change your inner talk, change your life.

Your lover is a mirror reflection of you.

Take a look . . .

Human behavior NEVER fails to fascinate me!

"The Handmaid's Tale" ~The inimitable, soul-crushing horror you can feel when Life's imitated Art, and nobody's even thought to heed the warning.

Is Art imitating Life these days, or is it the other way around?

When it feels BAD to be good.

Only when you've come to intimately KNOW yourself, can you feel comfortable BEING yourself.

Who screwed up in our relationship~ is it them or Me?

Is it really true that opposites attract?

Hate me? I don't mind.

attaching to dysfunctional people, and breaking yourself of the habit.

Only when you fully KNOW yourself, can you feel comfortable BEING yourself.

"Birds of a feather flock together" is more than a trite saying~ it's an inalienable truth.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me. Lollipop Liberals and other things that go 'bump' in the night.

A benchmark for "normal?" Just what IS that, anymore?

When enough is never Enough~ the frustrating challenge of loving a Borderline

It's great to feel appreciated!

The Silva Method, or Magic?

What's "Love" got to do with it?

For my Facebook friends~ a little movie madness!

A bit of misinformation can fuck with your ability to succeed in life!

The death of common sense, and the terrible price we pay for it.

Are you feeling like a wanna-be, or have you found your niche?

Are YOU a narcissistic parent, or did you grow up with one?

Hooray!!!

Do you have trouble staying out of your head? Does it drive you out of your mind?

The Silva Method, or Magic?

Are YOU always in your head? Do you over-think every feeling and decision you make, and do you often second-guess your choices? Find out WHY, and how to break yourself of this bad habit.

But I'm not a professional, so I can't diagnose my crazy, fucked-up lover.

When you're frowning more than you're smiling in a relationship, it's because you're with the wrong person.

My latest binge: "Night Sky" on Amazon Prime.

Thinning the herd (or Heard), depending on how ya view it.

Well, hell . . .

Do YOU ignore your feelings, or make them "not matter?"

When Art imitates Life, we get to see beyond our denial, so we can learn, heal and grow.

Borderline disordered females understand absolutely NOTHING about men.

IF you have a brain and common sense

When you meet someone new, NEVER assume who they really are, based on how they look and sound.

Have you ever tried to get your emotional needs met by a three-year old?

Be careful what you fear . . .

Making molehills out of mountains (in theory, anyway).

An ounce of PREVENTION is worth a pound of cure.

Ignorance is bliss, until it isn't.

Your vulnerability doesn't define you. It's merely a spoke in your multi-dimensional wagon wheel.

To Be or Not To Be~ Identity confusion, and its disastrous impact to future generations of children

Gender Ambivalence: Has 'being neither here nor there' EVER been respected or revered?

Birds of a feather flock (and fall) together.

Are ya sad 'cause you're fat, or fat 'cause you're sad?

I'm prejudiced.

Where are they NOW?

Ya have to wonder how certain films get green-lighted, when they really shouldn't have.

Give 'em enough rope . . .

Ya can't always get what you want (OR need)!

To Bottle or Breast feed?

IF you are a sane and rational individual, you owe it to yourself to WATCH this trailer.

Do YOU believe love has to be painful, or it's not the "real thing?"

Is it True Love, or just Great Sex?

Can ya let yourself complain?

Humans vs Lab Rats

You call this, "pizza?"

How to spot (and avoid) a Borderline~ it's not how you'd think!

The 7th Sense

Confusion: A Precursor to Obsession

If you're afraid to FEEL, you cannot learn to HEAL.

Being Different Requires Exceptional Courage!

The meek might inherit the Earth, but it's only because the rest of us have worked our assess off, to make it a habitable place.

Should the concept, “All for One and One for All” apply to ALL groups of people, or just majority populations?

Hypocrisy is projection onto others, the sins one fails to recognize in themselves.

Hollywood romances: A trip to the moon on gossamer wings, or just one of those thigs?

BPD: If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck!

Two topics for the price of one~ or, a bird in the 'bush' is worth two in the hand!

Never gonna give you up, no matter HOW you treat me . . .

The Treachery has Begun . . .

Expertise is gained ONLY through persistent, diligent practice.

Amen!

The Sexual Crucible: Is it True Love or merely a biological imperative?

The long and short of it, with reference to your hairstyle. Hint: Resist impulsivity, when you're wanting to make a change.

A Borderline's abuse can be utterly diabolical, and far-reaching. Quit allowing it!

When ya can get exactly what you need, it can feel like a miracle.

Old dogs, new tricks

You can get over a breakup, but only if you stop beating yourself to a bloody pulp for it!

BPD is far more intricate a disorder, than you might think.

How to heal after a breakup

Hidden Dangers of Prolonged Stress on Your Psyche and Body

Is it Them or Me, who's nutz?

What is a Woman??

Extremism (of any type) always spawns broad-scale dysfunction.

When it comes to Borderlines, you'll never see the deceit and betrayal coming, until it's too late.

Love: An Abstract Concept

The True Nature of Females~ Fact or Fiction?

Speaking of "Loneliness"

Ask any man . . .

What nobody's ever told you about Addiction, until now!

Why are humans motivated to "date?"

The BPD lover: Pros and Cons

On dating and mating . . .

Disgraceful.

People say, dating's hard. I say, that's the EASY part!

The Slap Heard Around the World: Was it a stunt, a hoax or a cuckolded actor's rageful compensation for feeling impotent?

Joe Biden~ America's MOST WANTED Rapist

It's great to feel appreciated!

Gratitude is a gift.

Outgrowing Your Addiction - The 'Little Book'

Consuming large quantities of soy products can harm you!

Home buying: Fantasy vs Reality (what every potential buyer should know)!

The challenge of healing BPD, due to the Borderline's addiction to pain

BEYOND THE YELLOW BRICK ROAD

Do YOU keep trying to save the un-savable??

Do YOU have an Underdog Complex?

Being half-Russian . . .

Amazon

What's "Love" got to do with it?

Is Dating always a prelude to Mating?

How have YOU learned to "cope?"

You must remember this~ as much as you'd like to, ya can't save everyone.

Great minds abhor small talk.

A Road Less Traveled

Why a Borderline Personality Disordered lover leaves us perplexed and obsessed.

Can you receive~ or only give?

Coming soon