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If ya know anything about human nature, we are ALL "Bad People" once in awhile!
A Good Time was had by all, unless you're with a Borderline!
Feeding strays keeps 'em coming back for more.
It's often easier to rebuild a marriage, than end it.
Accountability versus Self-flagellation
Borderlines can't differentiate between Contact and Courtship.
TO BE, OR NOT TO BE MEDICATED FOR DEPRESSION?
Psycho-Babble: Pablum for the Sick and Tired.
Wisdom is earned thru trial and error, UNLESS you have Borderline Personality Disorder traits.
The Extraordinary Life (and Loss) of a Neighborhood Legend~ my Cat, Greyson.
EGO DYSMORPHIA: THE #1 KILLER OF HAPPINESS
BULLIES will harass ya, until you command their respect.
How we do ANYTHING is how we do EVERYTHING.
RESIGNATION VS RESOLUTION: THE CONFLICT CONUNDRUM.
"IF BORDERLINES ARE SO AFRAID OF ABANDONMENT, WHY DO THEY PUSH US AWAY?!"
The Borderline Personality in Couples Treatment
Living in the Wild, and Rescuing Critters
Borderlines don't 'ripen' and get better with age~ they're far more likely to rot.
REMEMBER THIS: It's the PURSUIT of "happiness" that determines whether we ever actually attain it.
Some people think, "the more pain I endure, the STRONGER I get."
STAYING IN A TOXIC MARRIAGE "FOR THE KID'S SAKE," IS HORSESHIT!
Who are YOU, and how do ya feel about it?
HOW DO WE KNOW, WHAT WE FEEL FOR ANOTHER IS ACTUALLY "LOVE?"
The UNCONSCIOUS Emotional Payoffs in Partner Selection.
WHAT'S IT TAKE, TO REALLY TRUST SOMEONE?
WHEN YOU'VE GROWN UP HAVING TO BE TOUGH AND STRONG, 'CAUSE YOUR SURVIVAL DEPENDED ON IT
DATING, IN THE WORLD OF 'APPS' AND SEEKERS OF INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
IF HINDSIGHT'S ALWAYS 20/20, WHY THE FUCK AREN'T WE WILLING TO GET TO IT SOONER?!
DO WE REALLY HAVE TO HATE SOMEONE BEFORE WE BREAK-UP WITH 'EM??
WHY IS SELF-SABOTAGE SO COMMON?
The (hidden) Trouble with Enmeshment
BPD is a developmental issue, that's passed along generationally.
Throw a rock blindfolded in Hollywood, and you'll hit a Borderline!
TOO MANY REMAIN WITH ‘THE DEVIL THEY KNOW.’
Could Substack BE any more confusing??
If a Borderline falls in the forest and nobody's around to hear it, does he/she make a sound?
"Oh, it's not worth the trouble."
The monotony of verbal REPETITION with a Borderline
Borderline Ex's: To make a long story short . . .
Behind the "MAGIC" of Human Transformation
Do ya REALLY need a dangling carrot, to do the right thing?
Grist for the mill~ or therapist neglect?
Is the grass EVER greener?? Depends on your vantage point.
"Curiosity killed the cat," is a saying we should ALL heed a lot more!
If there's ONE THING you'd change about yourself, what would it be?
Life can take spectacular turns, we'd never counted on.
Trans-obsessed kids, and their parental hostages.
It's not possible to truly TRUST someone who hasn't EARNED it!
MYTHS you've been told about romance and True Love.
What's really the UPSIDE in being your "worst enemy?"
Reminiscing, and feeling THANKFUL for insight and wisdom, early in life!
Be VERY careful who you trust . . .
Are you still frantically searching for Happiness?
The DARK side of Oprah Winfrey
PEOPLE WHO ARE SUPPOSED TO KNOW ABOUT RAISING AN EMOTIONALLY SOUND AND HEALTHY CHILD, RARELY DO.
If WE can get over someone hurting us, everybody else can, too!
Little did I know~ I'm being discussed in college classrooms!
Borderlines and Narcissists~ a match seemingly made in Heaven.
This little power tool can dramatically alter your life, if you USE it!
"Just say NO." A growth exercise that's easier said than done.
A Facebook post from 4 years ago, that's still useful and relevant. Enjoy!
FOOLS rush in, where the WISE never tread.
Identity Crisis: The GOOD news nobody talks about.
When another does something you feel damages the relationship, open your mouth and TELL 'em.
In the world of healing~ ya win some, ya lose some.
Fatherless youth~ are men who leave home, REALLY to blame?
NOBODY CAN REPAIR A HEART CONDITION, WITH BRAIN SURGERY.
The bottom-line TRUTH about Life and Love
History inevitably repeats, until we learn our lessons, and finally say: THE BUCK STOPS HERE!
Don't try to fix someone else's life, before you've cleaned up the mess in your OWN backyard.
A BPD trait, nobody even knows exists!
If ya want a really important job, Facebook is recruiting people with jaundiced eyes
The duplicity (two faces) of Facebook
I posted this 2 years ago (today) on Facebook. It still holds up, so I'm sharing it here, with you.
"Don't hate me, 'cause I'm woke" (and going broke).
If your world is feeling topsy-turvy, there's good reason for it.
Surely, prophetic authors like Ayn Rand and George Orwell are turning over in their graves!
You KNOW you're dealing with a Borderline, when . . .
A tisket a tasket, is there anything of VALUE anymore, in a TV writer's basket??
How Narcissism Inhibits Empathy
Never underestimate the power of the Subconscious. It's the 'show-runner' of your life's story.
Equity hiring signals the demise of a resourceful, responsible, moral society.
The Intellectual Majority versus the Intellectual Minority.
As often happens, a client's experiences directly inspired this post about BPD females.
The Big Secret to finding Real Happiness, the world of "psychology" DOESN'T want you to know about.
Why is good ol' Common Sense so uncommon today?
To Trust or NOT to Trust~ an issue with which far too many struggle.
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything.
When it comes to romantic love, is the Prize worth the Price you pay for it?
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar~ except when you're dealing with BPD in politics.
Having a grandiose ego has therapists and coaches foiling themselves in countless ways.
The death of masculinity: Bad things happen when you de-fang the nature of a beast.
When "leaving well-enough alone" isn't quite good enough.
A BIG part of success has always been about choosing your AUDIENCE.
Self-discovery is central to attaining happiness and emotional self-reliance.
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything. Our VALUES shape how we see our world, and react to it.
Has Joe Biden's road to Hell been paved with "good intentions" ~ or is he just plain EVIL?
Did YOU get picked on as a kid?
Dear Leftists: CAN we agree to disagree??
Do YOU remember the good ol' days?
Have we been WOKED~ or just fucked??
Some of the simplest little life tools have the most dramatic impact.
You tell Me: ARE the sins of the parent, visited upon their child?
I was once a political sleepwalker~ how about You?
Do you WANT to have an enduring love affair?
What's in a BPD diagnosis? A very limited amount of real information.
Repeat after Me: I don't NEED a "good reason," to feel bad.
NO reply is usually the BEST reply, when you're dealing with a pesky Borderline.
I'm hoping that SOON, Life will imitate Art
Are you looking for someone to "complete" you? Check your bathroom mirror.
Are you in a love affair with The Devil You Know?
We resist change, even when our happiness depends on it.
We are attracted to people who match our OWN level of emotional development.
Beware of accepting baked goods from neighbors! (My evening in Hell.)
Oh, so you THINK you know about Borderline Disordered Personalities??
For many, going to "therapy" is simply another addiction.
WHAT ACTUALLY CAUSES BPD? IT’S NOT WHAT YOU THINK!
How we do Anything, is how we do Everything.