Sitemap - 2024 - Shari’s Newsletter
Why Does NOBODY Ever Tell Us?!
A Brief, Autobiographical Retrospective in 2024: The Year that WAS.
Politics and the Personality Disordered Mindset
Are your antidepressants working FOR you, or AGAINST you?
What started as a Substack 'note,' yet yearned to be more.
Attachment Fear BLOCKS a Borderline's Ability to Recover.
Ya don't need a psychology license to diagnose dysfunction!
If you won't deal with your Feelings, your Feelings will deal with you!
The Most Prolific Nine Years of My Writing Career
Can you hear and accept the truth? Or do ya ONLY let-in what feels comfortable for you?
In the world of POLITICS, Personality Disorders are our biggest threat.
Great Sex and Love seldom come in the same package.
Health Practitioners and The God Complex.
Online DEBATES: Are they useful~ or do they merely gratify our painful, unmet needs for attention??
The PURSUIT of Happiness is more appealing to most, than the actual attainment of it.
Fear not: Trump's gonna be just FINE . . . !
What BPD is, and what it isn't.
Why do we Scapegoat GOD to fix our problems for us?
Do You DREAD going "Home for the Holidays?"
Codependency: The insidious Personality Disorder NOBODY talks about.
Human Suffering: Is it GOD'S shortcoming?
Our Societal and Political Pendulums are Gearing-up to Swing REAL HARD.
'Baby Steps' Will Take You WHEREVER Ya Wanna Go!
Jeff Bezos: A Choice Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea
"Learning to Live With Pain..."
The Agony I Routinely Observe in My World
Fear of CONFRONTATION has you settling for MUCH less than you deserve!
The VP Debate: The good, the bad and the ugly.
Histrionic Borderlines~ and how to QUIT circling the drain with 'em!
Have you ever been abruptly dropped on your head, soon after meeting someone?
How the 'Anxiety Monster' Has Taken FULL CONTROL Over Today's Political Terrain.
PARENTAL 'SUPPORTIVENESS' VERSUS REAL LOVE ~ and why so many adult lives have run afoul.
Just a Miracle, on Friday the 13th.
Super-Givers ATTRACT Super-Takers!
THE CHARLATAN VS THE REAL DEAL:
If We're Reluctant To CRY, Real HEALING Is Beyond Our Reach.
On the SSRI Debate: DOES it boil down to Good versus Evil?
Just a Facebook post from 4 years ago (9/7/2020). Hang on tight, M'dears...!
The downside of INTELLECT, in the world of speaking and writing:
Time is of the essence~ yet is it ever REALLY "wasted?"
I fully enjoy being a dame~ but I'm damned GRATEFUL for my masculine intuition!
If you can change just One Mind . . .
Are "Daddy Issues" the REAL reason your relationships with men fail? Guess AGAIN!
Fiber-Mania is a one-tract mindset.
To really KNOW Thyself, means you'll never be bored a day in your life!
THE ONLY THING THAT’S GETTING ME THROUGH THE MADNESS!
Whacky Neighbors and Social Faux Pas
"The Enemy of My Enemy, is My Friend."
A Fond Farewell to Depravity and Insanity
Okay, so you've learned to LOVE~ but are ya able and ready to RECEIVE it?
Narrow-mindedness and Narcissism are frequent bunkmates.
Narcissism: The dark side of Super-Givers
There's a lid for every pot (physically speaking)~ so why are millions going under the knife?!
When no 'clever title' will do.
"No Good Deed Goes Unpunished" ~but have ya ever asked yourself WHY this is??
Dysfunction ALWAYS has a root cause. If ya don't look deep enough, you'll miss it.
Desperate People do Desperate things~ and Crazy is, as Crazy does...
Oh, what tangled webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive.
The meaning of Personal Integrity is, doing your very BEST, and letting nothing deter you.
A little Narcissism is normal and healthy~ but a lotta Narcissism can be toxic.
Incompetence, thy name is Kimberly Cheatle.
On Plagiarism, and the Rapidly Encroaching Death of Meritocracy.
What we really WANT may be waiting just beneath the surface of our consciousness.
My views on loving (from Facebook posting 4 years ago), that seem worthy of recycling.
Narcissism can be benign, but still teeter on the edge of a self-destructive abyss.
Genuine "INTIMACY" is a function of the Heart~ NOT the head.
The trouble with expectations~ whether positive OR negative, is they ALWAYS come true.
Do ya remember when being called "narrow-minded" was the worst thing anyone could accuse you of?
Solid PARENTING spawns Happy, Contented, $uccessful offspring.
When naivete is less endearing than dangerous, we have a problem, Houston.
When the Body, Mind and Spirit are out of harmony, the tone of your life goes awry.
If ya never say "OUCH!" how does anyone know they've hurt you?
Just a bit more about Borderlines, in case you're still unclear about BPD traits.
Just a Facebook post from way back in June, 2021.
Infant Development... such radically meaningful information. Don't miss this one!
This may be the most important, potentially life-altering video you will EVER watch.
Is it EVER appropriate to be verbally harsh with someone?
Do YOU procrastinate? Here's a way to change that!
Have YOU taken a Relationship Inventory??
Borderlines and Boundaries~ an Oxymoron.
Do we really WANT to get well, if we have no template for what Real Wellness feels like?
If all roads lead to Mecca, why do so few ever reach it?!
A strong foundation makes you invulnerable to storms.
A view from the bridge: To jump, or change course?
Always look ABOVE the smile and into one's eyes, to know who they are.
Going 'round and 'round the Mulberry Bush
What the hell goes deeper than 'scratching the surface' on what's REALLY ailing us?
Just how ARE men different from women?
Sometimes, a "note" is NOTEWORTHY enough to morph into a post.
CHANGE: The thing we want MOST, is the thing we HATE.
Why are some folks attracted to chaos and crisis?
The "Wrath of God" ~and other things that go 'bump' in the night
Have you ever tried to share your deepest thoughts or feelings with a toddler?
Escape by Suicide~ the ONLY choice an acutely tormented man can fathom.
Life, and other things your parents never taught you about.
Still searching for the meaning of Life?
Under the banner of, coming outta the ether
People say, “truth hurts” ~but DOES it?
Entitlement issues~ the secret killer of dreams
WISHFUL THINKING VS OUR PURSUIT OF "HAPPINESS"
"Will I EVER be able to receive the love I've needed?"
EXISTENTIAL CRISIS: It feels a bit like death, but it's actually a Rebirth.
A bit of knowledge can be a powerful thing~ particularly if you're a writer.
'Cause in today's world, a bit of levity goes a long way!
WHY buy the cow, when ya can get the milk for free?!
Why have a MOUTH, if you're only gonna use it to eat?!
The NON-Compliant Client: Therapist Ineptitude~ or Client Resistance?
God gives us only what we can handle~ bad OR good.
Angry? Sad? Go on, and BITCH about it!
Ya can't heal the Heart of a person, by operating on their mind.
The term, "loser" is often bandied about casually~ but that doesn't mean it's accurately used.
I awoke today with a tad more energy and enthusiasm, which inspired THIS.
How the twig is bent, so grows the tree
When interactions feel awkward or uncomfortable, do ya fight for what's right, or flee?
Calling 'misinformation,' on Robert Malone.
No matter HOW bad it gets Anxiety issues stay entrenched, until we're willing to heal.
The Inevitable fallout bourn by Highly Adaptable Humans.
On this day 3 years ago ~ a Facebook post that's still relevant today.
What's changed in the past 4 years? Not a fucking thing~ but idiots call it "progress."
DO you love to be needed~ or NEED to be loved?
Are YOU continuing to feed your Panic Monster?
Considering having a baby? The Reality is NOTHING like your Fantasy about it.
What's REALLY holding you back from loving and being loved?
CAN we even remember what "normal" feels like?
No News is ALWAYS Bad News, when ya have ADD traits.
PEOPLE-PLEASING: The Too-Polite Plight.
Brilliance versus Arrogance~ a battle to the bitter end.
The Socially Constipated: Are they the Exceptions, or the Rule?
Busy Minds are the Devil's Workshop.
"NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED"
With BPD Waifs, ya better shelve your fantasies of actually HELPING them.
THE MISSING LINK: Why Happiness is elusive to so many bright people.
PASSIVE AGGRESSION: The #1 killer of intimacy.
Is this the Real Life? Is this just Fantasy?
The Male Borderline~ Surviving the CRASH after your CRUSH (book preview excerpt)
IS LOVE REALLY A "SECOND-HAND EMOTION"?
Psychotherapy vs PURGING Emotional Pain
In Praise of Oft-Forgotten Human CONDUITS
Must we murder the Indecision Monster?
How Great Writers KILL Their Reading Audience.
The BPD onslaught has existed since the beginning of time.
A "normal life" isn't anything you should anticipate having, with a Borderline.
The incalculable benefits of SHOCK TREATMENT
Psychotherapy and the BPD Client
The SHOCKING TRUTH Addiction Recovery Programs NEVER Want You to Know:
We cannot WILL ourselves to be ready for change, even if it's highly beneficial to us.
MUST WE SET "BOUNDARIES" FOR GROWNUPS?
NOBODY can "know" what they haven't yet learned.
Can you be on the same page (or even in the same chapter) with a Borderline?
Do ya really KNOW your partner?
MID-LIFE CRISIS: Legitimate~ or merely a Societal Construct?
BPD females get away with murder, because weak, insecure men let 'em!